In Memory of Steve December 25, 1974-November 19, 1999

[cajungal]

I am very depressed right now and always am when this date comes around. Today marks 6 years that a co-worker and friend of mine died in a car accident. This event affected me tremendously and I never got over it. The evening started out normal. A friend of mine at the time. (She is now my ex-best friend) But, I won't get into that now. She was having marital problems and invited me to come out with her and 2 other co-workers. We all worked together at the time. I had just started Sears and Steve and his cousin had started about a month after me. We went meet Steve and his cousin at a Sport Bar in Houma and went shoot a few games of darts. After that, we went out for a night of dancing. Then, after the bar closed after 2 a.m., we went back to Steve's house. We all had a little too much to drink. So, we stayed there at his house and spent the night instead of having to drive over 30 minutes back home. That night I went to sleep, I had terrible dreams over and over about Steve getting killed in a car wreck. I woke up that morning and I was still shaken up. I could not get the dream out of my head. When we woke up, Steve was acting kind of strange. Barely said a word to me. I did not mention the dream I had because he was going to think I was nuts. A total psycho. My best friend at the time was Steve's boss. And she said you have to come in to work because I need your help putting up the Christmas decorations. Steve did not want to go to work because he wanted to go fishing. So, they fussed a little about it. Then, the phone rang, so he ended up talking on the phone. So, it was time for "Angie" to be back at work. We had very little sleep. Maybe 3 hours at most. And she needed to drop me off at home first. I happened to be off that day. So, she just told Steve she would see him at work. And we headed out the door. That is the last time we saw him alive. 15 minutes after we left, Steve got in his car and headed to work. He was speeding and trying to pass a truck. He lost control and hit a tree. Killed instantly. Sorry this is so long. I had to get this out. I never got over it and here it is 6 years later. I have a framed picture of him in my room. It was taken that fateful night before. The very last night that he was alive. He left behind a beautiful little girl who was 3 at the time. I doubt she will ever remember her father. And he was his parents only child.

[beachbum_al]

I am so sorry about you friend. Reading what you just wrote brought tears to my eyes. It doesn't matter how many years it has been when certain events and anniversaries come around it hurts like the first day you find out your love one or friend died. I wish I could say more or do something to ease your pain but I know there is nothing I can do or say really except to say I am sorry and that I am here if you need someone to talk to.

[tropicana]

I know its hard Cajungal. Keep the faith. I have lost several friends to car wrecks too. My good friend Richard Sept 19 1977- Sept 23 2001

died 4 days after his 24th birthday (he was out celebrating his birthday the evening he died)

Every day, every tear, every thought of sadness or darkness, sipping or sight of a drink reminds us, every set of keys, every tree, every car and brick wall, every sunrise, every sunset, every life reminds us. One life can be gone in a split second if we are not responsible. Every tear I shed, a mother father brother sister friend are shedding more tears. For one tear I shed, millions of tears are streaming down other peoples faces because of one drink. We lost friends, we hope and pray that we lose no one else.

DONT DRINK AND DRIVE!!! Please!

[arkess7]

wow cajungal......that you had a dream about it......one of my best friends has dreams like that too.......it is true that our subconsious is trying to tell us something......my best friend ...well she had a dream 2 nights before Katrina hit New Orleans that people were running from flood waters coming in......i know that sounds weird but she dreamed it.....ive also had dreams that come true.....to an extent..

im sorry sorry about that.......it is a hard thing to get over......

and tropicana you too.......its awful losing friends like that....


When i was about 22 this guy named scott(OTown knew him too) he killed his self........being drunk and flying down a two lane road in the middle of the night......and flipped his SUV multiple times...DOA....just awful.......and the weird thing is the night he died i saw him up at this bar....(georges) and he said he was fighting with his girlfriend.....and then the next day my ex-boyfriend called me and said he was dead...... really strange........ill never forget that......and i didnt go to his funeral because i didnt hang out with those people anymore......after just breaking up with my ex and all.......

just as tropicana said......DONT DRINK AND DRIVE!!!

[Stephanie]

I am so sorry to read about your friend.

[TexasStooge]

Sorry to hear about that.

[O Town]

Really sorry to hear of your lose cajungal.

[cajungal]

I had dreams about Katrina before it happened too. Kept having dreams several times about a violent hurricane coming very near New Orleans. The feeling got stronger last week of August and I even mentioned it in chat one night. My prediction was that a hurricane was going to hit Louisiana near the anniversary of Andrew and the 40th anniversary of Betsy. I was very close. Katrina hit August 29th. And Andrew hit the 26th and Betsy September 9th. Katrina was very near those dates. I also predicted the exact landfall 2 days out. I predicted it would come just east of Grand Isle. I made my prediction in Channel 4 New Orleans weather forum.

When Rita formed, everyone thought she was going to Galveston. Not me. I predicted my TX/LA border several days out. I usually keep my thoughts about this stuff to myself. Because maybe these are just concidences? I don't know. Because no, I don't know the numbers to the power ball or anything of that nature. Otherwise I would be rich. The closest I got was 4 numbers right. Only I was not playing for real. Just wrote some random numbers on a piece of paper. I was under 21 at the time.

Steve's cousin no longer works for Sears. But, he is dating my boss. They have been together since shortly after his death. So, they been together for roughly 6 years and have a child together. So, he still comes in the store a lot. I saw him just 2 days ago and every time I see him, my memories of the night come flowing back. Since he was there that faithful night and all. Steve and him lived together and were like brothers. I still think about that night all the time. It could of been me. I rode with him the night before his death in his car. I was going to ask him to bring me home that morning. So, my friend could just go straight to work and not be late. But, because of that dream, I decided not to even ask him. If I would of not went on gut instinct, maybe I would not be alive today. But, I still regret it to this day that I did not stop him from walking out that front door.

[wxmann_91]

Wow cajungal...you got ESP!!! Better be careful what I dream about...

Anyway, about the story, so sorry about that. Very sad indeed.

[cajungal]

just as tropicana said......DONT DRINK AND DRIVE!!!

The wreck did not happen until 8:15 the next morning. So, he was sober by then. He was acting fine that morning. I even remember what he wanted for breakfast that morning. An egg and bacon biscuit from Mcdonalds. He never got it though. Even though it was not the smartest thing for me to ride in his car that night knowing he was drinking. Just stupid things you do when you are young. Even some things like that do cost some people there lives.

[arkess7]

Yes we do learn buy the stupid things we have done when we were younger.........Im 32 now and I look back......and I did some scary stuff........but drinking and driving has been such a part of everybodys life....in the past and now.......including me.....and it is not worth it now........i learned my lesson the hard way.......TAXI!!!!!

but there are still people i know....and some people just dont learn.....he must have been driving too fast or crazy even though he was sober......and it sucks that some people pay the price.....and we have to learn from their mistakes......... what happened to scott really made me think and think hard..

well just know that he is in a better place .......and cheer up!! and have nice holidays!!!