Can someone explain more about Asperger's to me?

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#21 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:16 pm

I did some reading on ASpergers and dating tonight and it says most people with it have troubles having a relationship. Depressing.
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#22 Postby ColdFront77 » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:21 pm

How much different life would be if I did things other late teens and 20 somethings do... I am going to be trapped in my early to mid teens (leaving the house doing what most people do on this planet) forever.

As for relationships, I wouldn't mind having friends of either gender... but it has no way of working with not being able to meet anyone my (our) age.
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#23 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:29 pm

ColdFront77 wrote:How much different life would be if I did things other late teens and 20 somethings do... I am going to be trapped in my early to mid teens (leaving the house doing what most people do on this planet) forever.

As for relationships, I wouldn't mind having friends of either gender... but it has no way of working with not being able to meet anyone my (our) age.


true. Do you ever go to the mall, ect. I mean just walk up tio some girls and just start small talk. I want a girlfriend also but my standards are HIGH on looks.
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#24 Postby ColdFront77 » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:36 pm

I have no way to get the mall, if I wanted to go. If I ever go to a mall it is with my parents.

It isn't that I want a girlfriend... I can really care less; at this point it isn't going to happen, so it ends up not mattering.
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#25 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:40 pm

here's a article I found on Dr. Phils site on a past show I watched. Talks about living at home when your too old and relationship problems.

http://www.drphil.com/show/show.jhtml?c ... chers2.xml

Is your life where you want it?" Dr. Phil asks Jeremy.
"Not even close," he replies. "Not only can I not get a real job, but I've also never had a girlfirend," says Jeremy. "I'm worried I'm going to break the record for the world's oldest virgin."

"You have no girlfriend, no job, no life, no car, no belongings, no nothing...the only thing you have is the key to your parents' house. What are you doing about it?" Dr. Phil asks.

"I'm trying, trying, trying to get a job," he answers.

"Do you get the sense that you are generating a lack of momentum that can really bite you?" Dr. Phil asks.

"Yes," he answers.

"You get into this comfort zone where days turn into months and then years and then before you know it you're 28 and you're living at home. It seems to me that if you don't have a job, your job is finding a job," Dr. Phil says. "And you said you don't have a girlfriend...would you date somebody who would date you right now? Who wants to come home and eat mac and cheese with your mother?"



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#26 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:41 pm

ColdFront77 wrote:I have no way to get the mall, if I wanted to go. If I ever go to a mall it is with my parents.

It isn't that I want a girlfriend... I can really care less; at this point it isn't going to happen, so it ends up not mattering.


Why dont you just drive your parents car then?
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#27 Postby ColdFront77 » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:43 pm

I don't have and don't want my driver's license. For one thing I have eye sensitives, especially when the heat or air conditioning is on.

If I wanted to go use the car, my parents would most likely say no, not sure why. I can't even go uptown with the golf cart that we are allowed to drive around the community we live in. They say there's too much traffic...
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#28 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:49 pm

ColdFront77 wrote:I don't have and don't want my driver's license. For one thing I have eye sensitives, especially when the heat or air conditioning is on.

If I wanted to go use the car, my parents would most likely say no, not sure why. I can't even go uptown with the golf cart that we are allowed to drive around the community we live in. They say there's too much traffic...


Wow. I feel sorry for you. :cry: Well in Florida you should see how some of the older folks drive. :eek: You must think though when you get older in life and dont have your parents to depend on how will you support yourself? I worry all the time about it. I want to get married someday, but dont want kids for a long time cause they hold you back.
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#29 Postby ColdFront77 » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:54 pm

One of my brother's (and his wife) are willing to assist me. Living by myself would be okay, but there are a few things that would be helpful to have family members around.
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#30 Postby Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2004 10:58 pm

ColdFront77 wrote:One of my brother's (and his wife) are willing to assist me. Living by myself would be okay, but there are a few things that would be helpful to have family members around.


True. Still I cant imagine my whole life not having a girlfriend or wife, and being lonely. Just sounds too depressing to me.
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#31 Postby Martinsville Weather » Sun Sep 19, 2004 8:40 pm

As some of you know, I have wondered before if I may have asperger's. The more I read about it the more I think I probably just have social anxiety disorder or something along those lines. I too have never had a girlfriend, although I have been close to getting one a few times. There's this girl that I like now but I'm scared to find out how she feels. I guess that's just typical in these situations though, I wouldn't really blame it on a disorder. And Charley, you shouldn't only look for "hot" girls. Looks aren't that important; relationships based only on looks won't last.
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#32 Postby Guest » Sun Sep 19, 2004 9:12 pm

Martinsville Weather wrote:As some of you know, I have wondered before if I may have asperger's. The more I read about it the more I think I probably just have social anxiety disorder or something along those lines. I too have never had a girlfriend, although I have been close to getting one a few times. There's this girl that I like now but I'm scared to find out how she feels. I guess that's just typical in these situations though, I wouldn't really blame it on a disorder. And Charley, you shouldn't only look for "hot" girls. Looks aren't that important; relationships based only on looks won't last.


How old are you? I understand looks are not important, but I want someone Im attracted to and find sexy. is this girl you like cute? First find out if she has a boyfriend. Maybe just talk with her and tell her you like her and ask her if she wants to go out and do something one night.
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#33 Postby Martinsville Weather » Mon Sep 20, 2004 6:43 am

Charleycat4 wrote:How old are you? I understand looks are not important, but I want someone Im attracted to and find sexy. is this girl you like cute? First find out if she has a boyfriend. Maybe just talk with her and tell her you like her and ask her if she wants to go out and do something one night.

I'm 19. Now don't misunderstand what I said. There does have to be some physical attraction between two people. What I meant is that you shouldn't only look for "hot" girls, you may be physically attracted to someone you wouldn't classify as hot. The girl I like is quite pretty but that isn't why I like her, I like her because she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met.
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#34 Postby Guest » Mon Sep 20, 2004 7:42 am

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Charleycat4 wrote:How old are you? I understand looks are not important, but I want someone Im attracted to and find sexy. is this girl you like cute? First find out if she has a boyfriend. Maybe just talk with her and tell her you like her and ask her if she wants to go out and do something one night.

I'm 19. Now don't misunderstand what I said. There does have to be some physical attraction between two people. What I meant is that you shouldn't only look for "hot" girls, you may be physically attracted to someone you wouldn't classify as hot. The girl I like is quite pretty but that isn't why I like her, I like her because she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met.


Oh. Just like at my work there is this good looking girl whos really athletic cause shes a goalie for Quincy soccer team but goes away to college in the fall so I wont see her for awhile. Shes hot but shes really polite too and always nice to me. Im too nervous to ever tell her what I think about her.
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