#75 Postby Miss Mary » Sat Oct 15, 2005 8:51 am
cajungal - I sympathize. I know others have it much worse than you do but ya know what I think? When your GI tract is really out of whack, as I phrase it, you just can't function in normal society. I have all sorts of IBS like symptoms, but I suspect you have them worse than I do. When I get messed up I can't just sit in a restaurant, my stomach heaving, to and fro like a tiny ship in an angry ocean. Or sit in church, packed in tight. I always want the end seat in the pew. Yes, I am one of those parishioners that needs to flee at any moment. I use the cough trick a lot too, to mask other unpleasant side effects. Of which I'm sure you have too. People who have normal colons just do not understand. When I say I have to eat chocolate in moderation, they immediately say oh I couldn't give up chocolate. I live on chocolate! How can you do that? I say well, if I have a normal size piece of choc. cake w/ choc. icing, I am messed for days. Not hours. I am guessing offensive foods irritate the lining of your tract too, am I right? That is what I've discovered in these long, trying 6 years that I've been dealing with all of this. I really do feel better overall if I avoid the foods that mess me up!
A group of us socialized before a beloved band reunited in Cincinnati last Thanksgiving weekend. Couples who rarely go out anymore wanted to meet up with us. Now I don't eat past 2 p.m. on a night like that. I eat a very good breakfast and lunch by 11. Have a yogurt or banana as my last solid by 2. So they pick a place that was a nightclub/restaurant. As soon as all 6 of us were together, of course someone says oh let's take a table. And of course the waitress gives us all menu's. I kept mine closed. They were all saying oh what should we order. Even my hubby ordered, b/c he had had an earlier big lunch (not what I ate, he was at work). When the waitress came to me I said oh just another Michelob. I ate earlier. Raised eyebrows all around the table, except my hubby and one wife (who I had clued in earlier). Even the waitress said oh, okaaaaay, as if our food isn't good enough for you look. I just smiled and changed the subject. As they were all eating, I had to hear - can't believe you passed this up Mary, it was a good restaurant I'm sure. Absolutely no way was I was going to take that chance! Long story short, half way thru their meals, I went to the bathroom, not by necessity but for something to do. Putzed around with my hair, lipstick, that jazz. Walked back slowly and most were done. Crisis averted. Well, not really. But there's my best example of how I do NOT cave to peer pressure. People just do not understand what we go thru. And even my own husband doesn't always understand. He's watched me spend hours in the john, so much so that's I've completely worn out 2 commode's innards that have had to be replaced. They'll probably need it again....LOL
Hang in there. A liquid diet isn't a bad idea when you just aren't sure what to eat. My GI doc told me that. And I also believe it does our GI tracts good to calm down, no input for a while.
Some severe IBS sufferers have opted for colostomies. Not saying you are anywhere near this stage. But from posts I've read on internet message boards, they feel 100% better and wonder why they hadn't had done sooner.
I do feel your pain.
Mary
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