Have any of you ever met someone through online dating?

[cajungal]

Just curious. It is not for me. I browsed through the sites just because I was curious to see what was out there around my area. Around my general area there was not much. And 99% of the sites you have to pay for them and they are not cheap. If you don't upgrade your account and pay for it, then you can't even contact anyone you like. And it is not really cheap either. I am not about to run up my credit card when I might not even meet anyone. You got to very, very careful about meeting people online. Never give out personal information. But, I am sure all of you are smart and all know that by now. Lots lie and they are not who they say they are. Most are not looking for a relationship but rather a one night stand. Very similar to the bar scene. Some don't even use their real picture either. I tried one free dating site once. I had the account for over a year, but got very few responses. And the few I got were rude. So, I deleted the account. If you do decide to meet someone online, don't go alone. Always bring a friend with you and meet in a public place. Never have them pick you up at your home. Most of the time they never show up anyway according to most people had to say. I don't think I would ever try to meet someone online unless they lived less than a 30 minute drive from me. And if I brought someone with me and it was in a public place.

[feederband]

No.. but know people that have..

[cajungal]

My friend met her husband online. A chatroom I think. I went on their first date with them because she is very shy and was very nervous. So for them it was a success.

A co-worker of mine also met her husband online. But, she married him after knowing him for less than 2 months. Because he lived an hour and half away. And she said it was too hard to see each other. I never would of married someone in that short period of time. I know she is not happy because she complains about him all the time. He is lazy and does not work. He plays video games all day long and he is 35 years old. I think she is just with him for financial reasons. Because there is no way possible she could support herself working at Sears. And he does not work, but he gets a check every month from the government.

I think I am too freaked out to meet someone online. There is not very many options on meeting guys here besides the bar scene. And I am burnt out on that because all of them are drunk. They are not looking for a relationship, just someone to go home with. I would of like to have been settled down by age 30. And I will be that age in 4 and half months. I have been having the absolute worse luck with guys these days. All the decent ones in my age range are already taken. It is starting to make me feel that something is wrong with me. Every single one of my friends has found Mr. Right, but not me. And the few times I do go out, the guy always seems to be interested in my friend and not me. Even if they are already taken.

[Terrell]

Nope, I've never even considered doing it.

[tomboudreau]

I met my wife on-line. I lived in Connecticut, she lived in Pennsyvlania. I moved to PA to be closer to here. We married 18 months after first talking on-line. We have now been married for just under 4.5 years now. She has been my absolute greatest friend and closest person to me ever.

[Yankeegirl]

My sister in law met her hubby on line as well... She lived in Texas and he lived in Belgium! They talked a little over a year and then he came here to visit, and they got married a few months later... They now have 2 kids and everything is great... 5 years later!

[nholley]

I also met my wife online. I was in the UK and she was here in PA. 3 years and still going strong.

[wx247]

Interesting to see how many people have found LOVE online. While it does come with risks and frauds like have been mentioned, it apparently does bring a lot of people together.

[arkess7]

Hey cajungal..........chill out!!!!!!! 30 aint nothing.............i was 27 when i had my daughter and 26 when married............no rush..............i know its frustrating......i used to think the same things......that i would never get married and be an old maid........no way.....and now married 6 years now......i really dont know if he is the love of my life............we have problems.....age difference and alot others im not goin' into..........and of course we met at work...........

The on-line thing.....im sketchy on that.....i dont know.....but i know how hard dating can be now a days............you cant trust anyone.........as you found out..........and so have I.........thats just life.......you live and you learn....

cajungal.......i think you need to concentrate more on YOU.......not on a man or relationship..........make YOU happy......get your own place........do something for you............forget men............you will find one someday.........then who knows from there........they all bite anyways!

OK I KNOW IM GONA HEAR IT FROM SOME MALE..........SO BITE ME!

[beachbum_al]

No, not me personally but my sil met her present boyfriend through eharmony and he seems really nice.

[Miss Mary]

Amy - hear, hear! This is what I tell my own daughters. Do not let a man define you.....define yourselves first and foremost!

I wrapped my entire world around my first husband from ages 17 until 28. Dumb-dumb! Of course had he been a decent guy, all would have been fine. I'd still be married to him, to this day, I'm sure (had he not moved in with his girlfriend, since I didn't believe in a 3 way, we sought a divorce).

When the time is right, you'll know it cajungal. I met my husband now, precisely at the time in my life I gave up on ever finding my true love. I even announced to everyone - I'm done with dating...all the good ones are taken. Of course I did rob the cradle a bit, only by 3 years....but I couldn't be happier. And it happened when I least expected it!

Mary

[HurryKane]

cajungal.......i think you need to concentrate more on YOU

Amen! (except I think you need to give your period key a break ).

Cajungal, when a woman is desperate for a dude, the dudes can smell it. Bad dudes will use this to their advantage/your disadvantage. Good dudes will run from it.

Good dudes are attracted to women who are happy with themselves and have a lot of good things (interests, goals, etc.) to bring to the table.

Do try to stop focusing on the 'married before I'm 30' deadline you set for yourself. In the end it is only preventing you from enjoying your life NOW. Besides, 30 is soooo the new 20.

[cajungal]

cajungal.......i think you need to concentrate more on YOU

Amen! (except I think you need to give your period key a break ).

Cajungal, when a woman is desperate for a dude, the dudes can smell it. Bad dudes will use this to their advantage/your disadvantage. Good dudes will run from it.

Good dudes are attracted to women who are happy with themselves and have a lot of good things (interests, goals, etc.) to bring to the table.

Do try to stop focusing on the 'married before I'm 30' deadline you set for yourself. In the end it is only preventing you from enjoying your life NOW. Besides, 30 is soooo the new 20.

I am not desperate for a dude. I actually could care less. I want to delete this post. Forget I ever put this in here.

[HurryKane]

The only reason I used the word desperate is because you've been bemoaning your single status quite a bit recently as well as recounting recent dating experiences in quite a bit of detail, so I just assumed that finding a guy was foremost in your mind.

I wish you good luck and good love; I did not mean to insult you but to help you. My apologies.

[Miss Mary]

HurryKane - in your defense, you did not misread this topic. I too thought the same thing. Way back when, I was starting to get desperate I'd never be happy again. It was precisely at the moment I said to heck with dating, men, ever feeling happy again (married-happy I mean), I met my husband. We were friends for 1 year before we began dating. We met thru a co-ed softball team, of all things. The rest is history.

Guys can smell desperation, a mile away. I'm convinced of that. I'm not saying you are desperate cajungal but your married before 30 goal says a lot.

Mary

[HurryKane]

Thanks Miss Mary. I meant to approach it like a friend of mine does for me. That friend is my emotional reality check and I cannot tell you how many times he has been just as blunt with me about the same subject. The bluntness is something I appreciated even though it stung a bit...because 9 times out of 10 he's right. Dang him.

Co-ed softball, huh? I'm afraid my uber-competitive side comes out during team sports (as does the sweat) so that may not up my attraction factor

[sunny]

I'm sorry, but I do have to agree with HurryKane and Miss Mary. I don't think either mean it to be anything other than helpful.

[Miss Mary]

Thanks Miss Mary. I meant to approach it like a friend of mine does for me. That friend is my emotional reality check and I cannot tell you how many times he has been just as blunt with me about the same subject. The bluntness is something I appreciated even though it stung a bit...because 9 times out of 10 he's right. Dang him.

Co-ed softball, huh? I'm afraid my uber-competitive side comes out during team sports (as does the sweat) so that may not up my attraction factor

Wellllll, let me just say there were no real jocks on that team. And we all played softball for the partying afterwards. We lived for that in fact! I don't know how many Friday mornings I stumbled into work, blearry eyed b/c we were all late the night before, partying after a SB game!

I don't think anyone even sweated! LOL They were all local musicians (ponytails, Chucks), I might add or in the music biz.

Mary

[HurryKane]

And we all played softball for the partying afterwards.

Heheheh. Here, our co-ed softball players are rather adept at protecting the beer can standing by their feet in either the infield or the outfield

I must say whenever our team played the Navy SEALS team I had a difficult time concentrating on the game at hand. Nevertheless you have inspired me and I'll probably sign back up for softball in the spring!

[Miss Mary]

he he indeed. I don't recall beer on the infield or outfield. But there was a keg at one game/picnic. Our female pitcher was pretty smashed near the end, the batter hit the ball smack into her chest and she just stood there. Didn't even bend down for it. The third basesman had to run over and pick it up! LOL We still rib her about that. And yes, there was a pitching change after that batter......she went to sit it off on the bench, probably a Pepsi shoved in her hand and someone else was pitching. Not me, I know that! I either played catcher, second base or outfield. And fairly sober I might add. I'm still a lightweight!

Mary