Well, here it goes...EDIT: back to being just friends...
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tomboudreau
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Oh yes. Towards the end of my trips to PA and her trips to CT, we would spend the entire last day feeling miserable because we were not seeing each other anymore. I threatened my last time down before I moved, that I was not boarding plane and staying down here. But I knew that I had to go back. It was only 15 to 20 days before I was moving down for good...but man, it hurt so much to say that last good bye.
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therock1811 wrote:Thanks Stooge.
Now, I have a question. Is it normal for it to hurt emotionally a little more every night when one leaves the other? I am not one bit experienced in this and I just feel like I need to know.
I read your script and I would feel quite awkard falling in love with someone over the net, especially if you have not known that person for a long time. Falling in love is a very serious thing that needs to be acted out in-person and not over the net. I am not knocking, but just letting you know to be careful. A lot of people become pretenders and say things that they cannot possibly evince themselves of. I don't know your situation, but if you have never been in love then watch out! Otherwise, walk with trepidation and take day by day. DON'T RUSH INTO THINGS ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO FALLING IN LOVE.
GOOD LUCK
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petal*pusher
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Hey....you're NOT a screw-up....and you DO deserve to be happy!
It's so easy to get personal on the web without ever actually seeing the other person....everyone does it here daily. Anybody can say anything and one just has to trust that intentions are sincere and truthful.
Some are fortunate to find good relationships; that's because both partners are being truthful....but some are trying to make someone believe they are something they are not. Every relationship, either face-to-face or over the computer can easily have a few rough spots....just know you have lots of caring people here that simply want you happy.......p
It's so easy to get personal on the web without ever actually seeing the other person....everyone does it here daily. Anybody can say anything and one just has to trust that intentions are sincere and truthful.
Some are fortunate to find good relationships; that's because both partners are being truthful....but some are trying to make someone believe they are something they are not. Every relationship, either face-to-face or over the computer can easily have a few rough spots....just know you have lots of caring people here that simply want you happy.......p
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cajungal
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Aww. What happened? Did you meet in person and one of you was not attracted to the other? Or did not click? Don't worry, somebody is out there for you and you just have not found her yet. Love will happen when you at least expect it and are not looking for it. Everything happens for a reason. I know some romances over the net work out , but many do not.
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Believe me...."too many fights" (as you've said) is not a good foundation for ANY relationship.
I always figured meeting different "prospects" was good training for when the REAL person came along! You'll find somebody....honest. Just consider this past relationship as a practice run. Feeling hurt and stupid is natural....we've ALL gone thru that in our lives....the secret is to learn something that will help figure out when the REAL one comes along.
Sending positive vibes your way.....p
I always figured meeting different "prospects" was good training for when the REAL person came along! You'll find somebody....honest. Just consider this past relationship as a practice run. Feeling hurt and stupid is natural....we've ALL gone thru that in our lives....the secret is to learn something that will help figure out when the REAL one comes along.
Sending positive vibes your way.....p
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I have been hurt by the dating scene more than you will ever know. So I know the pain you are going through. I am currently single right now and trying not to let it bother me anymore. I want to one day be married and start a family. But, I still have not met the right person. I guess if it is meant to be, it will happen when it happens. In any relationship, it is always a gamble. Always a chance of giving the other person your heart and still getting hurt. I have been through it many times. I know that good communication is the main key for any relationship to work. Don't worry, keep your head up, it will get better.
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Jeremy,
I'm so very sorry to hear this. I agree, you are not a screw up. No way. You just want a girlfriend so much, that it hurts. That said, I have to repeat what I've said to young people in the past (and my own daughters) - having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not everything in life. I learned that the hard way - by marrying my HS sweetheart at age 20. Thought I was set and happy for the rest of my life - wrong. Had a divorce pretty much thrust upon me whether I liked it or not (unless of course I believed in a 3 way relationship, which I do not!). I dated my share of jerks and precisely at the time I gave up on dating and went solo (in my my mind too) is when I became better friends with my husband (we were on a co-ed softball team). I honestly believe I wanted to be happy too much and I was coming off as almost desperate to make that happen (for lack of a better word). Whatever new vibe I put out - men, eh, who needs them anyhow, I'll be single for the rest of my life, I'll show them - worked.
I'm not saying you are this way (when I wanted to be happy so badly) but it might do you some good to be solo (in your mind too). Solo is good - you find out just how strong you are!
My college age daughter told me a sad tale but with a good ending, a girl she casually knows became close with another student (he pestered her something awful to date and she defined herself by having a boyfriend). She became pregnant, he didn't want it, paid for an abortion, drove her to the clinic, she had one and when it was all over, he dumped her - of course. Moved on to other girls (on the same campus!). She called her parents who came running, not to lecture but to surround her with love. They said they wished they had known and would have gladly supported any decision she made. Got the impression this girl is thru with guys, for now.
Again, not saying you're like this at all but when I heard the above story, I reminded my daughter - see why I keep saying having a boyfriend isn't everything in life?
Hang in there wx-buddy. I know there will be happier days for you. Right now it doesn't seem that way but you will. Give yourself time to just be you. I'm so glad you never moved!
Mary
I'm so very sorry to hear this. I agree, you are not a screw up. No way. You just want a girlfriend so much, that it hurts. That said, I have to repeat what I've said to young people in the past (and my own daughters) - having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not everything in life. I learned that the hard way - by marrying my HS sweetheart at age 20. Thought I was set and happy for the rest of my life - wrong. Had a divorce pretty much thrust upon me whether I liked it or not (unless of course I believed in a 3 way relationship, which I do not!). I dated my share of jerks and precisely at the time I gave up on dating and went solo (in my my mind too) is when I became better friends with my husband (we were on a co-ed softball team). I honestly believe I wanted to be happy too much and I was coming off as almost desperate to make that happen (for lack of a better word). Whatever new vibe I put out - men, eh, who needs them anyhow, I'll be single for the rest of my life, I'll show them - worked.
I'm not saying you are this way (when I wanted to be happy so badly) but it might do you some good to be solo (in your mind too). Solo is good - you find out just how strong you are!
My college age daughter told me a sad tale but with a good ending, a girl she casually knows became close with another student (he pestered her something awful to date and she defined herself by having a boyfriend). She became pregnant, he didn't want it, paid for an abortion, drove her to the clinic, she had one and when it was all over, he dumped her - of course. Moved on to other girls (on the same campus!). She called her parents who came running, not to lecture but to surround her with love. They said they wished they had known and would have gladly supported any decision she made. Got the impression this girl is thru with guys, for now.
Again, not saying you're like this at all but when I heard the above story, I reminded my daughter - see why I keep saying having a boyfriend isn't everything in life?
Hang in there wx-buddy. I know there will be happier days for you. Right now it doesn't seem that way but you will. Give yourself time to just be you. I'm so glad you never moved!
Mary
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Jeremy, don't be so hard on yourself. Honey, relationship are complicated, no matter if they are on the net or not. If Liz is not the one for you, I'd rather you found out now rather than hurt more in the future. You are a very sweet young man, and you deserve someone who will return your love in full. Don't settle for anything less. You will find that "special someone".
For the record and for those who believe it's not possible to develop strong feelings for someone you meet on the net, I've been in your shoes, I fell for someone HARD that I met on the net. And it hurt when the communication stopped, and that happened at the worst possible time. Don't discount that these feelings could and can be true.
For the record and for those who believe it's not possible to develop strong feelings for someone you meet on the net, I've been in your shoes, I fell for someone HARD that I met on the net. And it hurt when the communication stopped, and that happened at the worst possible time. Don't discount that these feelings could and can be true.
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and back more times than I care to count since 7pm last night.Wow, Jeremy. What happened to you is exactly and I mean exactly what happened to me in February. It's a long story. We met in October and liked talked for hours and hours on the telephone for 4 months. I was so in love but then things went horribly wrong.
I was so tempted to just give up but I met someone else on the met just a week after my original break-up and we're making plans to meet up next Friday night. We'll have supper together and go out to the mall and just hang out. I'm so excited. I hope we click.
So, all I can say is back in February I felt like I was destined to be alone and I cried so much. I mean it was like someone died....I just broke down sobbing 3 or 4 times per day but then this other person came along and seriously saved my life (everything I could have hoped for)
I'm shocked that I'd meet someone so soon after such an intense relationship but I did. So get back on the horse buddy and try meeting someone else.
It won't be the same at first. You'll probably think of the other girl at first but then you'll realize how much better this new girl is for you and you'll be happy again.
That's what happened to me
So don't give up...Hang in there
I was so tempted to just give up but I met someone else on the met just a week after my original break-up and we're making plans to meet up next Friday night. We'll have supper together and go out to the mall and just hang out. I'm so excited. I hope we click.
So, all I can say is back in February I felt like I was destined to be alone and I cried so much. I mean it was like someone died....I just broke down sobbing 3 or 4 times per day but then this other person came along and seriously saved my life (everything I could have hoped for)
I'm shocked that I'd meet someone so soon after such an intense relationship but I did. So get back on the horse buddy and try meeting someone else.
It won't be the same at first. You'll probably think of the other girl at first but then you'll realize how much better this new girl is for you and you'll be happy again.
That's what happened to me
So don't give up...Hang in there
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Well I am back to 
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The reason?? That girl just told me she wanted me to go ahead and jump off a bridge, just let her know when so she could watch! What the hell is that? Everyone knows darned well I have had bouts of depression and she turns that against me! I'll tell you what that is, that's B.S.!
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The reason?? That girl just told me she wanted me to go ahead and jump off a bridge, just let her know when so she could watch! What the hell is that? Everyone knows darned well I have had bouts of depression and she turns that against me! I'll tell you what that is, that's B.S.!
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