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Update on the Creepy situation:
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:25 pm
by Josephine96
Well.. here's an update on my creepy situation regarding the e mailer who has been exchanging e mail back and forth with me since Friday.
She still refuses to tell me who she is. Her writing style doesn't seem eerily familiar anymore.
But like I said.. she refuses to tell me who she is, no matter how many times I have asked her to do so.
Should I just stop writing..? or should I keep pressing her until she finally tells me who she is..?
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:27 pm
by Skywatch_NC
I've heard of "block" features for one getting unwanted email.
Eric
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:28 pm
by Lindaloo
Definitely stop writing and block this person. I have heard of the FBI and undercover policemen pulling scams via the net to try and snare sex offenders that prey on children. There are also teens working with the FBI to track them down too. Just another scenario for you John. Not saying you are a sex offender either.
Time to stop it whatever the intention.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:30 pm
by Josephine96
Just out of curiosity.. why do you guys think I should block? She hasn't said anything threatening.. and she appears to be completely harmless...
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:30 pm
by GalvestonDuck
Definitely stop. Don't acknowledge her at all. And be cautious. Does the line "I will not be ignored, Dan!" ring a bell?
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:33 pm
by GalvestonDuck
Josephine96 wrote:Just out of curiosity.. why do you guys think I should block? She hasn't said anything threatening.. and she appears to be completely harmless...
Because it's easier than deleting all her emails and because you won't be tempted to open them if they're not there to begin with and because you won't be tempted to reply, which is what might happen because she might be manipulative with what she says to you in an effort to keep you in tow.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:36 pm
by Stephanie
GalvestonDuck wrote:Definitely stop. Don't acknowledge her at all. And be cautious. Does the line "I will not be ignored, Dan!" ring a bell?
GEEZ DUCK!!! I just got a chill thinking about it!
Josephine - ignore, block, whatever - if you are feeling suspicious about this person, then don't let her bother you anymore. If she is legit, then she'll get in touch with you a different way.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:41 pm
by GalvestonDuck
Yup, the fact alone that you have referred to it as "creepy" twice, John, leaves no doubt that it disturbs you also.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:42 pm
by Josephine96
True.. I know I should put a block on her.. and I know it may be a suspicious thing and I'd better be careful..
Being honest here.. {not sticking up for anyone} but most of my suspicions have actually gone by the wayside. It's just having her tell me who she is that's a pain in the butt lol. She still refuses to do so..
I'm sorry if I'm sounding nuts and or a little bit too crazy.. but I am not really that wierded out anymore. But I am proceeding cautiously.
The girl claims she "wrote to me because she liked the story I wrote {on my site}and she wanted to try to get to know me better"
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:42 pm
by coriolis
At best it's someone playing a prank on you. At worst it's a psycho, some sort of scam, or someone setting you up. My advice is to write one more message demanding that she (or he) identify himself, stating that you will block all further messages if they don't and then follow through! If you use Outlook or OE, you can set up message rules to block messages. I believe that you can look up the IP address of the sender in Message Properties, and pursue it.
Even if it's a "friend" you don't need "friends" like that. You shouldn't fool around with this. You can't be too careful these days.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:49 pm
by Josephine96
Coriolis.. I really do think it could be someone playing a prank. I also think it could be a girl at school who just wanted to get to know me..
I have my e mail addy on my website for if anyone ever wants to contact me about a story idea or anything like that. This is actually the 1st time someone ever has..
This "friend" also claims she's afraid to identify herself for something silly like she's afraid I won't like her or something silly like that.
I am actually considering putting the block on as I type this. I know I should just go ahead and do it lol.. But something keeps drawing me back..
Forgive me if I sound nuts or even twisted
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 2:58 pm
by coriolis
Well, yeah, maybe a shy secret admirer. I'm a jaded old fart, and I don't have any patience for games. I was the subject of a fatal attraction once, and once you get in, it's very hard to get out. If it was me, I'd give the ultimatum. Just watch yourself, John, we worry about you.
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:02 pm
by Josephine96
I know you guys worry about me. I really do think it could be a secret admirer. She even called herself 1 in 1 of her previous letters..
I think I'm so creeped out because up until about about 1-2 weeks ago.. That woman I was telling you about, wouldn't leave me alone lol. Until I finally told her to get lost..
I will proceed with caution.. I really do think it could be a secret admirer.. but I will continue to be very careful..
I promise guys.. if it begins to get real creepy again.. I'll block her..

{gives pinky and will lock pinky's with anyone who wants too so I can pinky swear that I'll block if it gets really creepy again}
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:03 pm
by GalvestonDuck
Josephine96 wrote:This "friend" also claims she's afraid to identify herself for something silly like she's afraid I won't like her or something silly like that.
One other option -- not to wig you out or anything, but it's a possibility to consider.
Re-read everything. Are you absolutely certain that this is a girl who's writing to you? The fear of identifying one's self could be because of possible rejection or embarrassment and could point to the fact that your "admirer" is the same sex as you and is uncertain about your preferences. I'm
not at all saying that your sexuality is ambiguous, okay? But having seen it from this side, I can relate to being attracted to someone but being uncertain of whether they're approachable to ask for a date or not. If that's the case, just express that you're flattered but not interested. No need to make a big to-do about it. I've been on the receiving end of the "I'm really flattered" comment and it's not that big of a deal.

Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:05 pm
by Lindaloo
Listen to coriolis John.... he will not steer you wrong!!

Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:19 pm
by coriolis
Not intentionally anyway. I'm in a cantankerous mood today. Must be all the easter candy, or being at home with the kids for 5 days straight (or is that 5 straight days? he he, ha ha)
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:21 pm
by Josephine96
I'm taking everybody's advice into consideration.. I will also keep in mind that yes this "admirer" could be someone of the same gender..
I am rereading everything as I type to you guys and it does appear that this admirer is indeed a female.
I will definitely keep you guys updated..
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:37 pm
by GalvestonDuck
coriolis wrote:Not intentionally anyway. I'm in a cantankerous mood today. Must be all the easter candy, or being at home with the kids for 5 days straight (or is that 5 straight days? he he, ha ha)
It can rain or snow for five days straight, meaning that it (the rain or snow) was continuous over the course of five days.
You can watch the kids for five straight days, meaning the days were in successive, continuous order and you didn't get a break in between.
It barely seems like there's a difference since the days are consecutive on both counts.
But when "straight" follows the unit of calendar time (weeks, months, hours, etc.), it means that the
event or action was uninterrupted. When the unit of time is described as "straight ______," then it means time period is uninterrupted.
Confused yet?

Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 3:39 pm
by Lindaloo
coriolis wrote:Not intentionally anyway. I'm in a cantankerous mood today. Must be all the easter candy, or being at home with the kids for 5 days straight (or is that 5 straight days? he he, ha ha)
ya think? It is a combination of both. lol
Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2004 5:31 pm
by HurricaneGirl