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When I was a child in the 80s I was beat with a flyflapper, dropcord. How times have changed if you do it its called child abuse, back then it was not. I would not beat my child. I was beaten was wife was grounded. If we did not do our home the teacher beat us with a paddle.

LAVA soap in the mouth for using Foul language...if that was the case for children today we would need more volcanoes spewing out more lava to keep up with demand for that stuff

Got the paddle a couple of times...but it was more the THREAT of dad's fraternity paddle that always hung on the wall...Dad never hit, beat, etc....it was usually mom (but then again she had to put up with me the most )

Yes times have changed...

My father never hit me. I think since just me and my sister were there, he was afraid to hit girls. My mother would slap us though. My father did not have to hit us, when he said something, we did it and did not argue. If we argued, we got a worse punishment, like being grounded. I knew that when my father said something, he meant it. Usually all our punishment was grounding or having privileges taken away, like phone, tv, music , etc. for a week.

Janice wrote:My father never hit me. I think since just me and my sister were there, he was afraid to hit girls. My mother would slap us though. My father did not have to hit us, when he said something, we did it and did not argue. If we argued, we got a worse punishment, like being grounded. I knew that when my father said something, he meant it. Usually all our punishment was grounding or having privileges taken away, like phone, tv, music , etc. for a week.

same for me with my dad. he just has a "prescence" about him...my friends all say the same thing as well

Got the belt like 2 times from my dad, but it was in an organized fashion with a lecture to follow. Go sit on the bed and wait kinda thing. Not a beating out of anger, but a spanking out of love. My mom gave me the back of her hand a few times when I well deserved it for talking to her like dirt. But never any beatings, I think of beatings as when someone flies off the handle and just goes nuts without much warning, or ryhme or reason. Maybe because they were just in a bad mood or drunk. Spanking is a whole different thing in my eyes.

my parents made me watch happy days reruns, especially the ones with chachi and joanie. it was hideous punishment

I got the good "old-fashioned" butt-busting with a belt (leather, no buckle
attached). It was the dreaded instrument of punishment, folded on top of
the refrigerator, handy at a parent's whim. When I stepped out-of-line,
IT stepped off of the 'fridge. Made the point. I see now what a BRAT that I
was - and, NO...I don't feel the least abused. I learned what I could get away
with, and, what I couldn't get away with.

~Annette~

I remember having my mouth washed out with Ivory soap, of course, being from Cincinnati. A belt or two. And slaps across the face.

I don't feel like I was abused either. I know we can't treat our children like this but we sure knew our place back then. There have been times my youngest daughter feels she can say anything to me (mostly highly criticial comments) that clearly cross that line. I feel like she's the parent and I'm the child. I politely remind her that's enough and had I said anything remotely like that to my parents, I would have received a slap across the face. Oh yes I would!

But, did I feel that comfortable telling my parents almost anything - NO!

So there ya have it. Our generation were afraid of our parents, sometimes. Or all the time, depending upon who you ask. My kids are not afraid of us. Of course I've told them this is their safe haven, no matter how crappy their day has been, once they're inside the door, they can cry and tell me all about it. My parents never quite told me that. I had my bedroom to go to. And my diary. Thank goodness for that!

Good topic. I wonder what direction it will go.

Mary

Lima beans.

Miss Mary wrote:I remember having my mouth washed out with Ivory soap, of course, being from Cincinnati. A belt or two. And slaps across the face.

I don't feel like I was abused either. I know we can't treat our children like this but we sure knew our place back then. There have been times my youngest daughter feels she can say anything to me (mostly highly criticial comments) that clearly cross that line. I feel like she's the parent and I'm the child. I politely remind her that's enough and had I said anything remotely like that to my parents, I would have received a slap across the face. Oh yes I would!

But, did I feel that comfortable telling my parents almost anything - NO!

So there ya have it. Our generation were afraid of our parents, sometimes. Or all the time, depending upon who you ask. My kids are not afraid of us. Of course I've told them this is their safe haven, no matter how crappy their day has been, once they're inside the door, they can cry and tell me all about it. My parents never quite told me that. I had my bedroom to go to. And my diary. Thank goodness for that!

Good topic. I wonder what direction it will go.

Mary

/Reason for the topic was I have herd something on the radio about a week ago about a girl skip school and plus did not do her homework.Well from what the new radio said the father gave her a "old fashion"belt across the butt.Well now the father was put in jail and DSS took the girl.If anybody know where the link is it would be a good read.

Got the good ole' soap in the mouth for a potty mouth. Sorry to report, I had quite a potty mouth.

Spankings for the smaller things, with a hand. Always from my dad. Belt if it was something worse. My mom only slapped me once. She said something, I kicked her (!), and whap.

Each time I got punished, I deserved it, too. I was a handful at times, but usually, I was a good kid who didn't want to get in trouble.

Times sure have changed. Time out and grounding wasn't what we got. These days, kids walk all over parents. I see it a lot as I'm in childcare.

I would get spanked when i was small with a fly-back paddle (you know the wooden paddle with the red rubber ball attached by a rubberband) and then sent to my room for hours. Later it was denial of privileges like going out, sleeping out, using the car...stuff like that.

Spanking!!! Not beating, Not Slapping, Definitely not child abuse - I was turned over my Mom or Dads knee and spanked with their hand. It was consistent and well thought out - not spontaneous. I was told (and knew) what I had done wrong. It was a response to one of my bad actions. I deserved it. I learned from a very young age that an inappropriate action will have bad consequences.

Me bad!!! nah.. never

During the preschool years...I remember once my Mom giving me a bare-bottom spanking!!

Later on during the early grade school years it was sitting on a chair in the corner...for both my younger sister and I if we "tangled" with each other.

Eric

my dad would make me rest the end of my fingers on the kitchen
counter... then hit them one by one with a ballpeen hammer.
it would hurt!

Camille_2_Katrina wrote:my dad would make me rest the end of my fingers on the kitchen
counter... then hit them one by one with a ballpeen hammer.
it would hurt!

Ever have any fractured finger tips or black and blue fingernails?

A leather belt.
Soap in the mouth.
Being grounded.

Honestly, I don't see why that isn't allowed anymore. I turned out just fine, because I knew what would happen if I messed up. There is punishment, then there is child abuse.

SouthFloridawx wrote:Me bad!!! nah.. never

Uh huh! Yeah, right!

CajunMama wrote:

SouthFloridawx wrote:Me bad!!! nah.. never

Uh huh! Yeah, right!