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If you overhead someone talking about one of your friends, what would you do?

I would back off until I knew the entire story. Even if my friend was wrong, I would still stick by him or her. What would you do?

Pburgh wrote:If you overhead someone talking about one of your friends, what would you do?

I would back off until I knew the entire story. Even if my friend was wrong, I would still stick by him or her. What would you do?

Always better to be sure you have the whole story. And who are we to judge? Stick by your real friends no matter what.

I knew that's what you'd say David. ((HUGS))

Pburgh wrote:I knew that's what you'd say David. ((HUGS))

Thanks Karan. I've had to do it in my life. Real friends don't walk away!!
{{HUGS}} back at ya!!!

I guess it depends what they were saying about my friend.

I would just ignore it. I may confront the person and ask them where they got this info.

I would not say anything to my friend. That would only cause a big problem.

I would consider the source, try to get the whole story, without any prying (if I couldn't I'd shrug it off unless it was really unkind--in which case I'd probably defend my friend)... and in the final analysis... definitely stick with my friend, because to be that, you have to stick through thick and thin.

This of course excludes their being part of any real attrocity in which case I'd have to reevaluate my thinking.

A2K

Pburgh wrote:If you overhead someone talking about one of your friends, what would you do?

I would back off until I knew the entire story. Even if my friend was wrong, I would still stick by him or her.

I'd do the same thing, because 1, I know the trash talking would be gossip; and 2, I would never open my mouth unless I get the facts.

A true friend backs you no matter what, whether it be true or not. It will stop that person from talking about your friend. If that person was wronged then they should take it up with your friend.

Lindaloo wrote:A true friend backs you no matter what, whether it be true or not. It will stop that person from talking about your friend. If that person was wronged then they should take it up with your friend.

That's very true, Linda. As usual, my "scientific" penchant is to over dissect. If someone simply made an off the cuff insult about a friend of mine, I'd jump to their defense in a heartbeat. I think I was considering the possibility of an accusation that might be fairly serious in which case, as I'd already said, I'd "consider the source"... but still stand by my friend unless the accusation was serious and proved to have merit--in which case I would have to reevaluate NOT my friendship for the individual in question, but my willingness to defend that which may well be indefensible.

Okay.. so I'm just to damned picky!

A2K

One of my best friends is a lady in her mid 50's; while she can be a real pain in the moon at times (and yes i have told her this) shes one of the better people I know. Of course people talk about her. When they get too personal or too hateful I step in. She does the same for me.

Myself I really dont care what ppl say about me as long as its true.

Myself I really dont care what ppl say about me as long as its true.

Very profound, and quite true... same here. The truth I don't mind; but false statements/accusations will set me off, usually too quickly. Irish temper I guess.

A2K

If people were saying something malicious and untrue, I might intervene, but it really depends on the situation. In some cases it might make things worse. Some people are so malicious that my intervention would mean nothing and possible give them more incentive. Most likely I'd listen and either dismiss it or go back to my friend. Again, it depends on who, what, where, and when.

I agree. I would just ignore and move on. I would not want to be the one who got a big fight going. Of course, I would take it up with the person who was doing the talking. I would always protect my friend.

Doesn't happen very often because I wear my loyalty on my sleeve, so most people know better than to talk about my friends in front of me. But the few times it has, I tend to jump in with both feet and confront the person if things being said are in any way malicious or untrue.

Just wait to see the whole story. If it's something that needs addressed, then you can confront the person about it. Do it nice at first, don't just walk up to them and punch them in the face! But true friends dont walk away!

Yes, that's my view on it too. I am a loyal friend and need to disassociate myself from those that feel the need to VENT their feelings regarding my friend when I am present. As I don't know what the problem involves and who did what to whom, I'll just step back (beside my friend) and take a deep breath. Maybe it will all blow over.

Or just tell that person that you would appreciate it if he/ she didn't disrespect your friend while you are in the presence.

True friends talk out problems they have among themselves. It may take time but anyone who is your friend respects you enough to talk face to face.

"God in his wisdom and his Love very often sends his angels down to walk with us, we know them best as "friends"