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#41 Postby Johno8080 » Mon Oct 09, 2006 10:18 am

Im 20........when i was 15,16,17 i wanted to hurt my parents so bad! i wanted to move out and get away! i treated my parents like crap! full of hate towards them!

All i have to say is

If your going to get upto no good your going to do it no matter what!..........nothing will stop you!

But you will find that when your 18,19,20 you will hopefully become more settled in the mind :ggreen:

i dont live at home anymore but i lurve my mum so so much! :cheesy: its amazing how only in a year or so you whole thinking changes!

dont stuff it up! i droped out of school when i was 15......i dont regret it but if your 17 then your more then likely almost finished??????? stick with it mate! :eek:
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#42 Postby alicia-w » Mon Oct 09, 2006 11:09 am

i was thinking that you said all you got in school were Cs and Ds. Here in our school district, you have to have a 2.0 (a C average) to graduate, as well as passing the state exams. that may even apply to all of florida but i'm not sure. but you need to pull yourself together, make an effort, apply yourself, and get out of this mess. you got yourself here. you need to make a real effort to get yourself out.
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#43 Postby Pburgh » Mon Oct 09, 2006 12:07 pm

Well now you've done it. I don't think your main concern should be if a cell phone is cheaper than a landline. You have much bigger problems than that. How about health care, dental, food and clothing. What in the heck are you thinking?????? Get on your hands and knees and BEG your parents to take you back. Go to a friend, minister, councelor and get some help. Lose the "so called" friends. Clean up your act and get back to living and learning. Stealing from your parents?????? I personally think your parents are saints. If you were my child you would be in some type of program, camp or institute where you would have NO choices. The choices you are making now SUCK.
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#44 Postby Kelarie » Mon Oct 09, 2006 1:19 pm

I think everyone has said alot of good things. Get rid of the things that are dragging you down - friends that aren't your friends, drugs, drinking - anything that is keeping you from being a heathly kid. Don't grow up so fast, enjoy the time you have with your family. Talk things out with them, offer to go into therapy, with and without them. Pay them back what you have stolen, and try and earn their trust.

First and foremost, stay in school. Then if you don't want to go to college, join the military. That would help focus you in ways you haven't thought of.

Tell your parents you have a plan, but you can only do it with their help, and in all honestly you can't do it without. Because you will learn, family IS the most important thing in your life. They are the only people in your life that wont judge you by the way you look, etc. They love you for who you are. Get your act together, realize that the people you are hanging around with are trying to make themselves feel better, and they do that by dragging others do with them. Don't allow for that, be a leader, not a follower.

I don't know your situation, but I my advice, stay in school get your diploma and go in the military. After a stint there you could qualify for college money if you were inclined.

Last bit - life is about choices. Some choices are bad, followed by even worse, but it is never to late to make a good choice. You can start now. Good luck.

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#45 Postby alicia-w » Mon Oct 09, 2006 5:49 pm

The military doesnt need thieves. Straighten up, fly right. If you think life sucks now and you dont change, just wait and see how much worse it can get for you.
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#46 Postby Kelarie » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:01 am

The only reason I suggested that, is I have seen people on the wrong path become functioning members of society after being in the miltary. My 2 cents.
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#47 Postby beachbum_al » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:19 am

I think everyone so far has given you great advice. You need to get yourself into a program to help you with your problems. Ditch your so call friends because they are not really friends.

Once you get yourself clean and back on track, finish school. Work full time if you have to but be careful who choose to live with because if you pick the same type of friends that you have had in the past you will hit rock bottom again.

Make out a budget and follow it. Living on your own you are going to have to live frugal. No more fun! I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find yourself on the right track. You are too young to mess up your life. Get clean and get yourself back in school!
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#48 Postby george_r_1961 » Tue Oct 10, 2006 4:47 pm

beachbum_al wrote:I think everyone so far has given you great advice. You need to get yourself into a program to help you with your problems. Ditch your so call friends because they are not really friends.

Once you get yourself clean and back on track, finish school. Work full time if you have to but be careful who choose to live with because if you pick the same type of friends that you have had in the past you will hit rock bottom again.

Make out a budget and follow it. Living on your own you are going to have to live frugal. No more fun! I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find yourself on the right track. You are too young to mess up your life. Get clean and get yourself back in school!


AFTER he gets his act straight he can have fun without spending alot of money. By having fun I do not mean partying either. He can take up a hobby or make new friends at the NA or AA meetings he should be attending.
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#49 Postby rainstorm » Tue Oct 10, 2006 4:55 pm

lets all pray for fellow board member conestogo. god loves us all. time to make a new and better start in life
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#50 Postby Derek Ortt » Tue Oct 10, 2006 5:12 pm

I'm just going to say this harshly

GROW UP! ou know right from wrong at this age, so why in God's name did you act this way? By posting here, you seem to know that what you did is wrong, but continue to go ahead and keep being a brat, to put it very mildly.

Let me tell you something, if you do drop out of HS, you are going to crash and burn. It's not easy to make a living while attending a university as an undergrad. It is far harder to make a living as an HS dropout. Minimum wage jobs for the rest of your life.

Get your diploma, and there are plenty of well paying jobs for you, but it will take some time. A friend of mine from Niagara Falls, who I used to play golf with at a local country club there before I came to Miami has his HS disploma. He is now an assistant manager at Sams Club, and one day could be a general manager (is likely to be promoted to direct assistant next year). He's only 1 year older than me.

If you do not get your diploma, please do not cry for help, as you will have demonstrated that you do not want help by not heeding our advice
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#51 Postby Derek Ortt » Tue Oct 10, 2006 5:20 pm

he needs to be willing to be prayed for, Helen.

If I have children and one of them does this, they will be NWA. Not Without A** Welts for a good long time, and they will also probably be spending quite a bit of time in a detention center.

Ditch the alcohol as well, though I have little tolerance for people using alcoholism as an excuse (and by little, I mean zero tolerance). You'll need the money that you save from drinking on many other things (trust me, you save a lot of $$)
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#52 Postby george_r_1961 » Tue Oct 10, 2006 5:35 pm

Derek Ortt wrote:he needs to be willing to be prayed for, Helen.

If I have children and one of them does this, they will be NWA. Not Without A** Welts for a good long time, and they will also probably be spending quite a bit of time in a detention center.

Ditch the alcohol as well, though I have little tolerance for people using alcoholism as an excuse (and by little, I mean zero tolerance). You'll need the money that you save from drinking on many other things (trust me, you save a lot of $$)


THANK YOU DEREK!!!!!!!!!!

Constego as I told u before im a recovering alcoholic, sober 6 years now. I asked for help..DID AS I WAS TOLD, and still attend AA although probably not as often as I should. Derek you are right, alcoholism is NO EXCUSE for ANYTHING. I made a lot of mistakes back then and paid my dues dearly for them. By being made accountable for my actions while drinking I was given the incentive to get sober and stay sober. Constego:This is the road u are going to go down and you can make it easy on yourself by starting that journey NOW. Better start it at your age than wait until age 39 like I did and realize you have partied away half your life.
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