Sister needs prayers...

[therock1811]

I often come here asking prayer for myself, but not this time.

My sister came to my house Wednesday morning around 2:30. She was crying and pretty darn near hysterical. Turns out she and her boyfriend (maybe ex-boyfriend by the looks of things) had a big fight and he more or less kicked her out of the house she was living with him in. I don't know all the details, but she's at the house right now. From the sound of things, particularly what she told me Wednesday, it sounds as if there are some conflicts going on internally and externally for her at the moment. Not the least of which is the apparent fact that he "doesn't love" her anymore like he did when they first moved in together. Mom's hoping she stays, all I can ask is for you all to pray that she find out what she should do and that maybe I can help her out somehow...but I don't know. Thanks.

[sunny]

She is better off without the guy. Right now she doesn't believe it, but she will be okay.

[TexasStooge]

Wishing her the best.

[Pburgh]

I'm sure you'll be there for her if she needs to talk or just needs a gentle hug. I'll be sending prayers that she chooses the right path and that her life will be less complicated. ((Hugs))
Karan

[Miss Mary]

I had a rocky first marriage. Sometimes all you need is someone to ~listen~ to you and also to offer a place to stay/go/live temporarily, if a person wants out of a relationship. While on one hand, I'm happy to learn they are just living together. On the other, I don't understand why so many young people jump into a committed relationship like this! I have 2 nieces living with their boyfriends. We have a nephew on Jim's side doing the same, his g/f has a child from a marriage.

Whatever happened to sharing an apartment with friends, no strings attached, preferably of the same gender, and casual dating? That way you can get to know lots of different people, but not settle down while still young?

Who knows what will happen when my daughters get into their 20s but I'm hoping they will use my past as an example (not to marry young) and not to become serious young (moving in with boyfriends, while still young, as their cousins have done).

A person's 20s are an awesome time to have. What I would most wish for my girls is that don't become serious with anyone until they're 30! I'm done now!!!

Mary

[therock1811]

I don't think I can tell you why they choose that path. I just know how I react to hearing that someone has chosen to settle down when in their 20s: Hey, if that's your choice, then more power to ya. Some of us just aren't the type to do that. Me, I may not go out partying darn near every weekend, but I won't exactly settle down with one girl when I'm 23. Maybe at 26. But no earlier than age 24. It's just not in my genes.

BTW sis is just 18. I'm 19 (gonna be 20 soon, whodathunkit?).

[Rainband]

she will be in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like she would be better off without this individual. Sometimes "love" makes us blind. Hope everything works out for her best interest. Matters of the heart are sometimes confusing and cruel but the future usually makes sense of the past in it's own way.

[azsnowman]

She is better off without the guy. Right now she doesn't believe it, but she will be okay.

"AMEN!"

Dennis

Opps, btw....got her covered Jeremy!

[vbhoutex]

Mary, I couldn't have said it better myself!!! Jeremy, just be a good brother and a good listener!!! Prayers coming her way and yours that all will work out as it is meant to be.

IMO, from what you have said, I have to agree with everyone else here, that she is better off w/o him, especially at her age!!! I married very young and I will tell anyone within earshot it is not the right thing to do. We have been very lucky and had almost 33 wonderful years together, but I was very mature for my age(wouldn't know it now would ya? )as was she, even at 18.(don't let your sister read this part jeremy!!)

[depotoo]

she is in our prayers jeremy! all of you are!

[Miss Mary]

Thanks David for agreeing with me! Jeremy - I hope I didn't offend you with my opinions but I did learn them the hard way! I 'gave' away ages 20-28 to someone who didn't appreciate them. The best time of my life too! But I did make up for them later and made a very happy 2nd (and last I might add) marriage. So it all worked out in the end but not w/o a LOT of heartache along the way.

Sometimes young people think the answer is in another person - I want/need a girl/boyfriend. This think this will solve everything! In my case, it didn't. But like David, had my ex been the 'right' person, I'd still be married to him. At the time I really-really wanted to be married. I still say I was on the tail end of the baby-boomer women who wanted to marry young (born in 1955). Girls just a few years younger than me were suddenly saying, no marriage isn't for me yet, college is. I just missed that enlightening phase - dang!!!

I'm just surprised when young people today want to settle down so young.

I hope your sister finds true happiness Jeremy. With or without him, whatever makes HER happy.

Mary

[alicia-w]

I'm going through something similar with my daughter now. I told her she has to learn to feel comfortable in her own skin before she can have a successful relationship with someone else.

Your sister is in my thoughts and I hope she finds happiness.

[weatherlover427]

I am praying for her and hoping for the best.

[therock1811]

I CANNOT believe what has gone down in the last 8 hours.

Around 11am, my mom and dad went to my brother Mitchell's basketball game. Sometime between then and 12 noon, the boyfriend came here and took her out to lunch. (Supposedly to make up). Well they got back here around 2:00, and they had apparently "brainwashed" her into coming back to him. This after she had originally said she wouldn't speak to him. I confronted them and he actually tried to tell me that this was none of my business which is TOTAL B.S.! Meanwhile mom was trying to get my sister to stay which she would have none of, as I left to try to get my head straight. She did leave and in the process, left mom in tears. And I will tell you this right now...within 3 months I guarantee that he will physically hurt my sister. And when he does, I told him, I WILL make him regret it one way or another...I don't take too kindly to my family being hurt in ANY way.

[therock1811]

Thanks David for agreeing with me! Jeremy - I hope I didn't offend you with my opinions but I did learn them the hard way!

I didn't take offense to your opinions in my reply to your post. None at all. I simply stated my personal opinion of your views, which, I see, agree with my own in most ways. Except I said the earliest I might consider settling down is 24. I may not do that until I'm 30. Who really knows?

[Miss Mary]

Oh Jeremy, that's a very hard place to be for you and your family. Your sister sounds torn - staying with a guy that may not be good for her, but it sounds as if she's hoping he'll change. On the other, she knows she'd be safe with her family. I've been there (but thankfully no abuse from my ex, just mild mind control, if you leave, we're finished, comments like that). I would just continue to tell her you're there for her and back off. But then again if this was my daughter, it would very hard to back off. Glad you didn't take offense to my original comments. I wish everyone would wait to marry and get serious until their late 20s! I wish I could have my 20s back, or the years I squandered with my ex. Hindsight is 20/20 though....we all have regrets!!! I don't know a person who doesn't have any regrets.

Mary

[cycloneye]

My Prayers go to her and I hope that all goes well very soon.