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#1 Postby Guest » Mon Jun 20, 2005 9:47 am

RANT MODE ON << Okay, where do I start? First, I work in a grocery store, and I have to deal with customers everyday. For the most part, the customers are very friendly. I work
very hard to make the customer feel welcomed. In fact, sometimes my manager has to remind me to slow down a bit and to take it easy a little!

Now that I mentioned how I work, here's where my frustration comes in. Why is it that folks such as me who put in 100 to 110% into their jobs get very little? I am not talking job-related; I am more along the lines of life in general. All these other people, who are good workers, but don't have that go-go-go attitude and also mess around sometimes, seem to have the social life, the girlfriends, etc.

It just makes me feel slighted when co-workers who don't give a dang about their jobs, come in late, call in "sick" like every week or two, or take extra long breaks (thereby delaying mine) end up hanging out with their attractive girlfriend, while I am busting my behind and possibly correcting something they did wrong! :grr: It just does not seem right.

When will it be my turn? I realize that I may not be the most interesting human being on this planet; in fact, I probably come across as a boring individual. Perhaps the tide will change...PERHAPS.

>> RANT MODE OFF
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#2 Postby alicia-w » Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:05 am

yes, my dear, it aint just the grocery business either. out of 20 people in our office, only 5 really work enough to earn their pay. the others sit there and read books (no kidding), do crossword puzzles with their feet up, and play games on their computers. we're making $70K - $80K and they can screw off? really jerks my chain.
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#3 Postby Josephine96 » Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:43 am

This rant sounds eerily familiar.. Probably because I always say the same things at Wal Mart..

I am probably the best cart man they have.. and even though I got employee of the month my 1st month there.. I hardly ever get told good job.. or get praised for how hard I bust my carcas all day..

Yet.. 1 of the other 1's.. got "Cart Pusher of the Quarter!".. and I think it's because he's dating my boss's daughter.. in fact I just found out yesterday.. they're engaged now lol..

I feel like I always get shoved to the side.. Though I did have 1 manager yesterday tell me.. "Just keep doing what you're doing.. don't worry about everyone else.. and it'll eventually pay off".. Just I wonder when eventually is lol
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#4 Postby Guest » Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:48 am

I normally am told that I am doing a great job, or "thanks for your hard work today". The main thing is that I have no friends (period, work, no work, Mars, Pluto :lol:). Those that have friends or girlfriends are the ones that irritate me. They don't care about their job much, some are late to work or from break.

It just bugs the **** out of me! that I am friendless, but yet the lazy workers get all the gold. :( :grrr:
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#5 Postby BUD » Mon Jun 20, 2005 11:14 am

I KNOW THE FEELING!!! I was in the grocery business for 15yrs. Before I quit and went to work with my wife I would work third shift from 7pm-6am!!! I never had a life with my wife and daughter. Me and my wife have been together for 8yrs. This other company I worked for DID'NT care. The only ones they care about are the ones that do not work but get paid so much for not doing any thing. I would go in at night and break the trucks down and then do my work and probaly everybody elses!!! My wife tried to tell me not to because they would not have any thing to do. Just before I got ready to quit they wanted to give me a measly 15ct. raise!! That was a SLAP IN THE FACE!!! You work so hard and some companies do not care. The problems you are having unforunitly are at every job. Where me and my wife work, she gets 4 days on the schedule and others get five and do not do anything!! So good luck and hang in there it will get better. Just know you do a good job. The one people I talk about at this old job are the department heads!!!!
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#6 Postby Guest » Mon Jun 20, 2005 11:19 am

BUD wrote: Just know you do a good job.
Fortunately, the management knows I am doing a great job, too! :) They let me know. For example, just yesterday, I prevented a cart with a child in it from tipping over!!! :eek: Yes, I did that, and a manager told me "you saved a life today!"

Maybe I should re-word something. I am just so annoyed that I work so hard (whether it be work or in general life), but have no friends. A girlfriend... for me... like those "other" people who do not do much? Ha, ha, ha :lol:. That may happen when the devil freezes!
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#7 Postby BUD » Mon Jun 20, 2005 11:27 am

Do not worry you will get your chance. Some people you work with only care about there social lives. In some jobs the managers do not care!!! No matter how hard you work!!!
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#8 Postby azskyman » Mon Jun 20, 2005 2:13 pm

Sad but true...some people seem to have opportunities float into their laps, don't have to work hard for it, and otherwise seem to coast into the best social situations as well. It's like they are magnetic in every way!

Not only that...we ask ourselves, "Really now, you don't have to be a rocket scientist to see that this guy (or girl) has his own agenda going on...and yet everyone around him (or her) pretends like it doesn't exist!"

To make matters worse, weather guys (and girls) never get the best looking girlfriends (boyfriends)....in fact, sometimes rarely get friends at all! Many have kept their interest in weather a secret so that it doesn't hurt their chances even more.

Sound familiar?

Well let me tell you this.

I have come to learn that there are wonderful opportunities for a lot of people who feel this way. Sometimes we just don't see them when they come along. Or sometimes we have not trusted ourselves enough to react to situations where we must.

There is a lot to be said for the best cart guy. He's a hard worker, he's doing a job that others find "beneath them," and he's not afraid to be the one who does the job nobody else wants.

I have come to understand that the secret isn't in getting people to notice you so THEY will do something or acknowledge you. Instead, the secret is in what YOU can do.

Sometimes just setting some reasonable goals for yourself can help. Watch for advancement opportunities. Make it known to your boss that you'd like to learn more or do more.

And among your acquaintances...say YES to an opportunity or two to step out of your usual life and do something different. Whether you like it or not...do it.

Along the way new chances to meet new people really do happen. Once you are more confident in who YOU are, they might be more interested in who you are too.

Lastly, while you don't need to wow them with your knowledge of cumulonimbus clouds or weather instruments, don't be afraid to tell them you enjoy studying the sky...and what is so fascinating about it to you.

Just last week I sat in a room full of professionals with Master's Degrees and big titles. They were talking about their accomplishments and all the busy days they have...and I brought up my lifelong passion for the sky.

I told them how important it was for me to enjoy it...much as an artist enjoys painting or a musician enjoys music. And that it defines who I am.

While they may not fully understand it...they seemed very much to accept it. And I am glad they did. After all, if they are in a room with me for ANY reason, part of that includes my interest in weather.

Good luck with this one...and take small steps first. Life will serve up some opportunities once in a while and then you just have to do something about it when they come.

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#9 Postby southerngale » Mon Jun 20, 2005 2:26 pm

Excellent post, skyman! (as usual) ;)
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#10 Postby george_r_1961 » Mon Jun 20, 2005 3:23 pm

NE I can relate to your situation. Try to discreetely point out your job related issues to your supervisor. In other words catch him/her alone and calmly tell this person what you have told us. Its all too often the best workers get overlooked. I say I can relate to you b/c at my previous cooking job I was often expected to pick up other workers slack PLUS work late and come in on my day off when someone didnt show up. If i refused I got yelled at, yet nothing was said to the absent employee. After many years of that crap I walked out one day and never went back. Not saying you should do that though; theres always a chance your supervisor can fix things. As far as social life goes mine is here online along with most of my friends. They are as much my friends as they people I see daily at work or on the rare occasions when I go out. You can take up an imexpensive hobby to get you out of the house so you can interact with people. Be yourself..dont try to act like something you are not. If you are shy just start out by saying hello and introducing youself. Take it one day at a time..good luck!
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#11 Postby Guest » Mon Jun 20, 2005 4:05 pm

george_r_1961 wrote:NE I can relate to your situation. Try to discreetely point out your job related issues to your supervisor. In other words catch him/her alone and calmly tell this person what you have told us. Its all too often the best workers get overlooked. I say I can relate to you b/c at my previous cooking job I was often expected to pick up other workers slack PLUS work late and come in on my day off when someone didnt show up. If i refused I got yelled at, yet nothing was said to the absent employee. After many years of that crap I walked out one day and never went back. Not saying you should do that though; theres always a chance your supervisor can fix things. As far as social life goes mine is here online along with most of my friends. They are as much my friends as they people I see daily at work or on the rare occasions when I go out. You can take up an imexpensive hobby to get you out of the house so you can interact with people. Be yourself..dont try to act like something you are not. If you are shy just start out by saying hello and introducing youself. Take it one day at a time..good luck!


Not to be rude, but I don't think my text has quite yet made it through. :lol:



NEWeatherguy wrote:Fortunately, the management knows I am doing a great job, too! They let me know. For example, just yesterday, I prevented a cart with a child in it from tipping over!!! Yes, I did that, and a manager told me "you saved a life today!"


So, yes management is good to very good with EVERYONE. It is just another one of those life things.


The hobby sounds like a good idea. I never thought I would say this, but I am looking forward to fall semester already. More social opportunities, furthering my learning in my career (which does NOT have ANYTHING to deal with grocery stores--Journalism) and that;s jjust for starters. :D

Thanks for the help! :) Anyone else want to chime in? I would be more than welcome to hear your opinions.
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#12 Postby sunny » Mon Jun 20, 2005 4:12 pm

You really want my two cents? There is always going to be something at any job you have. Eventually you develop a "hard-arse" attitude. As one of the legal secretaries here just found out. When I first started working, people would run right over me. No more. You want to dish it out, you had better be ready to take it, because I can give it pretty darn good.

Hobbies are a good thing - you should get one :D
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#13 Postby MGC » Mon Jun 20, 2005 9:26 pm

I use to bust my butt when I was young. What did it get me? More work. It didn't take old MGC long to wise up. Someone would as me a question at work my standard answer is "I don't know" after a while they leave you alone. I was tired of working holidays, weekends ect. I learned that I was getting taken advantage of. Call my attitude self survival.....MGC
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#14 Postby Swimdude » Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:25 pm

I'm sixteen, i'll admit that first before this sounds TOO weird... I'm a swim coach. I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. The other coaches don't put half the effort I do. They miss practices. They forget things. And they don't announce when they'll be gone. In general, they're all good people, or my boss wouldn't have hired us to work with the kids, but for goodness sakes, they're so unreliable! And some of them obviously just don't care.

However, I get some added bonuses for my extra work. I've got 120 kids that absolutely love me. 8-) It's the best feeling in the world.
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#15 Postby coriolis » Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:50 pm

NEWeatherguy:

All I can tell you is to give it you best, and follow your own convictions. If they're goofing off, that's their problem. Stay true to what you know is right. Even though it seems unfair, you can't get hung up on that. If you look hard enough, you will never stop finding things that seem unfair. Things have a way of working out in the end. Life is too short to worry about things like this.
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#16 Postby HurryKane » Tue Jun 21, 2005 5:24 am

azskyman wrote:And among your acquaintances...say YES to an opportunity or two to step out of your usual life and do something different. Whether you like it or not...do it.


I cannot applaud this statement enough. Sometimes the inability to immediately or easily do something is the kick in the pants you need to get you out of a rut. It shakes you up and makes you better.

But, I must also agree a good bit with MGC's statement:

I use to bust my butt when I was young. What did it get me? More work. It didn't take old MGC long to wise up. Someone would as me a question at work my standard answer is "I don't know" after a while they leave you alone. I was tired of working holidays, weekends ect. I learned that I was getting taken advantage of. Call my attitude self survival.....MGC


NEWeatherguy, you have to decide what makes you happiest. If giving 110% and feeling slighted because of the actions or supposed "luck" of others--at work or in life--truly makes you happy, that's okay (I suspect it does not). If giving only 90% and having outside interests and merely shaking your head at (or ignoring) those who slack off or seem to have "more" makes you happy, that's okay too. Balancing out the professional and the personal takes time and effort and you're going to have to experiment a little to hit the right mix for you...and cease using other people's lives as a measuring stick for yours. If you're not happy with yourself and your life, you won't be able to make a girlfriend or a friend happy. Work on your happiness and well-being first and the rest will start to fall into place.

Good luck. Life is not out to get you. :)
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#17 Postby Pburgh » Tue Jun 21, 2005 7:33 am

Oh my. The horrible work ethic of others can be so frustrating if you let it get to you. You're not going to change them so don't let it bother you. I just know that my work ethic is self gratifying. I couldn't work any other way. Sometimes I feel that dedication sucks but most of the time I feel really great about the job that I do. I work in a man-dominated industry so it becomes very frustrating that my opinions and expertise are not taken seriously by some new guys. But, hey, they learn quickly.

All I can say is to hang in there. Your hard work and dedication will pay off. Just don't let their lax attitude rub off on you. I'd hire you in a minute!!
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#18 Postby Guest » Tue Jun 21, 2005 8:03 am

Thanks everyone for your advice!! :D

Sometimes I just hit these potholes :lol: in the road to life. Perhaps I will be hitting smoother surfaces soon! :)

Hopefully, I have at least some slight social opportunity as I start my second year at the four-year university next fall, just enough to make life enjoyable between papers, essays, papers....(you probably get the drift! ;) ).

Thanks again! :D
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