He tells me look I am going to be running late. I still did not get off work yet and I am waiting for my paycheck. I tell him that is okay, I am just going to go to my co-workers house and for him to just call me whenever he was ready for us to go pick him up. I get to my co-workers house and wait around for him to call me back. He calls back at 7 p.m. He says I am just getting home from work and I don't think I will be able to make dinner tonight. Let's just go out to Yesterdays.
That right there tells you all you need to know. He was rude and disrespectful to you and your coworkers/friends in the mildest of situations and felt his time was more important than that of three other people. It is unlikely he'd be anything but rude and disrespectful in any other personal situation as well.
I will be 30 in exactly 5 months and almost all my friends are now married but me. Why do I keep attracting jerks and what do you think was the reason this guy treated me this way? Any advice? Just no mean comments please, because it has been a very rough week. And I am very depressed about what happened.
I wish it never happened, but I can't take it back. Why can't I see straight through people? They tell me any line I want to hear, and I am stupid enough to fall for it.
Why did he treat you that way? Please don't take offense, because I say this in the most well-meaning, non-judgemental, and been-there done-that of ways: because you allowed him to. In this particular guy's mind, it was his 'job' to push the boundaries with you as far as you would let them go. He did not think it was his 'job' to look out for your well-being.
Seriously--don't worry about the 30 and still single bit. It can be kinda fun wink wink nudge nudge. Try concentrating less on finding a guy and more on developing yourself and developing friendships. Take some continuing ed classes, learn a new skill, hit the gym, volunteering, anything that takes you out of your comfort zone.**
And when you do go out, if you feel like things are getting out of control for whatever reason (he's pushy, you're drunk, etc.) then do what you can to remove yourself from the situation. Set limits with yourself before the date and stick to them. Be more assertive about how you expect to be treated by a guy. Because doggoneit, you're good enough, you're smart enough, you like you, and you're worth it. </stuartsmalley>
**this advice is pounded into my head daily a friend of mine. I hate admitting it but he's right, and some day, I will listen to him
