Attention all guys- Do you put girls to the test?

[Skywatch_NC]

I think it is over and done with. Nothing left to do but move on. It has marked a week yesterday since the event happened. And the last time he rang my phone was Saturday night. My friends husband was upset and wanted to fight him. He would get himself killed if he even tried. All his friends are heavy bodybuilders and look like they are on steroids. I am going out tonight. My friend is graduating from nursing school on Monday and taking her out to celebrate. But, I don't have to worry about getting in trouble with alcohol. Because this time I am the designated driver and it is a 20 minute drive to get back home. I am a little worried about running into him tonight though. He goes out every single weekend and all of Houma's nightclubs/bars are pretty close together.

You and your friend just totally ignore him tonight if he should happen by where you guys are. If he gets annoying and doesnt back off see the manager of the establishment.

[azsnowman]

I should have my head examined for EVER touching this question but NO.......I USED to "wine and dine" first, get to know the lady BEFORE continuing on with the physical part....call me an oddball if you wish but that's the way I was raised *even though the hormones were in first gear with the tachometer hitting 16000 RPM'S*

Dennis

[Miss Mary]

Between my marriages, I had one date with a guy who could have become a potential stalker. He was just too into me and I wanted to casually date. Nothing went past drinks, I might add but he was just too intense for my comfort. Left me notes and a single flower on my car at work. But thankfully I never gave him my home number, just work. But that didn't stop him from calling me a lot there. The one 'date' was one I met him at, with my car as a quick escape option. But the whole experience was a learning lesson for me. I finally put it all back on him, telling him he deserved better (a boldface lie), that he needed to find someone who deserved him (another lie), b/c I was just newly divorced, I didn't want to quickly settle down again. I even almost asked my ex for help but in the end I didn't need it. He was ready to go kick this guys arse but it never came to that.

What I'm saying is try that approach - you want more from this relationship than I do. You deserve someone who wants the same things, go out and find her.

If you say they're a real jerk and they frighten you, you have a battle on your hands sometimes. But when you put the focus on them and make it seem like their behavior is normal (when it's clearly not), sometimes they do just that - move on! And then if you know the girl they've latched onto, you might want to gently pull aside and warn her.

This may be like the coward's way out, but it worked for me. Let me tell you, coming out to my car after a full day's work, 8-10 hours and knowing he had been that close, was a little too close for comfort.

He gave up and I barely gave him another thought.

Mary

[Terrell]

Between my marriages, I had one date with a guy who could have become a potential stalker. He was just too into me and I wanted to casually date. Nothing went past drinks, I might add but he was just too intense for my comfort. Left me notes and a single flower on my car at work. But thankfully I never gave him my home number, just work. But that didn't stop him from calling me a lot there. The one 'date' was one I met him at, with my car as a quick escape option. But the whole experience was a learning lesson for me. I finally put it all back on him, telling him he deserved better (a boldface lie), that he needed to find someone who deserved him (another lie), b/c I was just newly divorced, I didn't want to quickly settle down again. I even almost asked my ex for help but in the end I didn't need it. He was ready to go kick this guys arse but it never came to that.

What I'm saying is try that approach - you want more from this relationship than I do. You deserve someone who wants the same things, go out and find her.

If you say they're a real jerk and they frighten you, you have a battle on your hands sometimes. But when you put the focus on them and make it seem like their behavior is normal (when it's clearly not), sometimes they do just that - move on! And then if you know the girl they've latched onto, you might want to gently pull aside and warn her.

This may be like the coward's way out, but it worked for me. Let me tell you, coming out to my car after a full day's work, 8-10 hours and knowing he had been that close, was a little too close for comfort.

He gave up and I barely gave him another thought.

Mary

That sounds very smart on your part. A good way to tell the unwanted suitor that it's not gonna happen, but in a compassionate way that isn't a putdown. Way to go.

[cajungal]

Well, I wish guys would be more old fashioned and wait before getting intimate. It is all a big game and they are very few decent guys left. Most my age are married, with kids, or still being a big player. It seems like every guy I seem to attract seems to only want one thing. And once you are under the influnence of alcohol like I was that night, your hormones go just as crazy as a guys. And you do things you would not normally do sober. This guy in the beginning really led me on the believe that a relationship would happen. He was calling me at least 3 times a day. And he only mentioned dinner and a movie. A real date. He seemed like a nice guy over the phone. But, it was just a big game. Just so I would think he was a nice guy otherwise I would of never gave him a chance. His intentions from day one was probably to get me drunk and try to get some. My mom would be so disappointed and ashamed of me if she knew anything. My mom is a very strict old fashioned Catholic and she does not believe in sex before marriage even. She did not do anything to her wedding night and she was nearly 27 years old by the time she even got married. She is also totally against couples living together before marriage. When I was with my old boyfriend, I was not living with him, but sleeping there about 4 days out of the week. We argued about it everyday and she threatned to kick me out the house over it. And I was 25 at the time. It was embarrasing because it felt like I was still in high school the way she was acting. Once I get a better paying job, pay off some bills, and save some money, I will get my own place. But, just can't afford it right now at all.

[azsnowman]

Hey Now.....I AM old fashioned, I NEVER pushed it, now if the shoe was on the OTHER foot and "I" was the victim, then.............

Dennis

[wxmann_91]

No but I will certainly watch my behavoir around them. Guys who play around with relationships are jerks. Sorry to what happened to you cajungal.

[tornadochaser1986]

I dont think so but i have a question for you if you know you like someone and wanna date them y do some girls play hard to get it drives people like me insane and i just give up and forget about them what is it a game u play or something?

[cajungal]

I dont think so but i have a question for you if you know you like someone and wanna date them y do some girls play hard to get it drives people like me insane and i just give up and forget about them what is it a game u play or something?

I am not the one to play games. But, I am also not going to throw myself at a guy either. Usually I am pretty shy when I first meet someone new. If I am not interested, I will definitly let them know. I try not to hurt someone's feelings, but I won't lead someone on. Because I am tired of it being done to me. Guys should not lead a girl on that he wants a relationship if he really does not want one. Don't pretend that you are interested in dating me if you are really not into me. Sure, my feelings might get hurt a little, whose wouldn't? But, I will get over it and move on. Because it hurts me more is when guys play stupid childish high school games with me. All I am asking for is complete honesty when I meet someone.

[Meso]

Most guys are normally total *insert swear word of choice here*! And this coming from a male..Nothing worse than friends talking about how they are trying to "get some"! Is it so hard for a person to actually look for love and not only trying to prove what a 'man' you are,People are just set on bent visions of living.Leading girl to think you really care and love them just to sleep with them has to be the saddest and most degrading thing to us other men.