Regrets, I've Had A Few...
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Regrets, I've Had A Few...
I'm not at the end of my journey, and I try every day to enjoy the view, the people I meet, the challenges I face, and even the obstacles I would rather not encounter.
I'm smart enough to recognize that I am past the halfway point, however, and a big fear I have always had is arriving at that final station when my time is up and looking back with regret on opportunities not taken, broken friendships not mended, and words not spoken.
Working toward a place of peace and acceptance is a goal we all will face someday.
But in between times, I have to admit I would have liked a few things to play out a little differently.
Here are some examples of mine...recognizing that some are still in the realm of possibility.
I regret that I have given up eating M and M's...food for my soul!
I regret that I have not yet become a private pilot and spending time in the skies I enjoy so much.
I regret not completing my MS Ed even though I was only 3 semester hours short of that goal.
I regret not yet going back to Vietnam to visit where I spent a very critical year of my life.
Any regrets you want to share...whatever age you may be?
I'm smart enough to recognize that I am past the halfway point, however, and a big fear I have always had is arriving at that final station when my time is up and looking back with regret on opportunities not taken, broken friendships not mended, and words not spoken.
Working toward a place of peace and acceptance is a goal we all will face someday.
But in between times, I have to admit I would have liked a few things to play out a little differently.
Here are some examples of mine...recognizing that some are still in the realm of possibility.
I regret that I have given up eating M and M's...food for my soul!
I regret that I have not yet become a private pilot and spending time in the skies I enjoy so much.
I regret not completing my MS Ed even though I was only 3 semester hours short of that goal.
I regret not yet going back to Vietnam to visit where I spent a very critical year of my life.
Any regrets you want to share...whatever age you may be?
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Wow, Steve you sure know how to pick challenging topics - deep ones!!! But good ones nonetheless!
At first I wanted to choose the first one. But overall I have to weigh the good in my life with poor choices in the past. That's life!
I have several biggie regrets:
1. Eating peanut butter every single day I was pregnant with my first child. And every single day I tried in vain to nurse her too. You see she's highly allergic to PB, if she even touches it she will go into anaphylactic shock. There's a medical theory out there that when pregnant you shouldn't ingest PB so much or at all. And here I thought PB on whole wheat bread was a healthy choice. In theory yes, but not daily. I used to love it too - we can't even have it in the house. I might mention too I ate 1 or 2 eggs each day also and she's not allergic to them. I was so into my diet back then - no caffeine, no alcohol whatsoever, and I didn't smoke. I wanted a very healthy baby....just wish I had skipped the PB. How was I to know? My single most fear: that she will have a full blown reaction, not get her meds, not get to the ER and her throat will close up (and yes the worst will happen). I've actually had nightmares about it. Not looking forward to shipping her off to college in just 2 years but somehow I know I have to let her go. I've started letting her go a lot already, school trips, etc. She's a good girl and doesn't go near it but still the almost impossible could happen......
2. Having one single date with my ex. HS sweetheart, whole 9 yards. What was I thinking tying myself down so early, Junior year on (we married 1 1/2 yrs. out of HS too)? Silly. Stupid. Of course I must add had he been a good choice and not lousy husband material, we'd still be married to this day.
3. Not running to the colon doc as soon as I knew something was wrong over 4 years ago. Had I done that, my initial colon cancer surgery would have been minor and not major, and hence not changing my lifestyle to the extent that it has.
That's it. Probably more but those are my 3 biggie's!!!
At first I wanted to choose the first one. But overall I have to weigh the good in my life with poor choices in the past. That's life!
I have several biggie regrets:
1. Eating peanut butter every single day I was pregnant with my first child. And every single day I tried in vain to nurse her too. You see she's highly allergic to PB, if she even touches it she will go into anaphylactic shock. There's a medical theory out there that when pregnant you shouldn't ingest PB so much or at all. And here I thought PB on whole wheat bread was a healthy choice. In theory yes, but not daily. I used to love it too - we can't even have it in the house. I might mention too I ate 1 or 2 eggs each day also and she's not allergic to them. I was so into my diet back then - no caffeine, no alcohol whatsoever, and I didn't smoke. I wanted a very healthy baby....just wish I had skipped the PB. How was I to know? My single most fear: that she will have a full blown reaction, not get her meds, not get to the ER and her throat will close up (and yes the worst will happen). I've actually had nightmares about it. Not looking forward to shipping her off to college in just 2 years but somehow I know I have to let her go. I've started letting her go a lot already, school trips, etc. She's a good girl and doesn't go near it but still the almost impossible could happen......
2. Having one single date with my ex. HS sweetheart, whole 9 yards. What was I thinking tying myself down so early, Junior year on (we married 1 1/2 yrs. out of HS too)? Silly. Stupid. Of course I must add had he been a good choice and not lousy husband material, we'd still be married to this day.
3. Not running to the colon doc as soon as I knew something was wrong over 4 years ago. Had I done that, my initial colon cancer surgery would have been minor and not major, and hence not changing my lifestyle to the extent that it has.
That's it. Probably more but those are my 3 biggie's!!!
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Like most everyone, there have been low points in my life but I have to say the good seems to always outweigh the bad even though sometimes it just doesn't seem that way!
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I have always said the only regret worth having is not having one.
I was very fortunate to have a mother and father who aided me in looking beyond the material things in life and digging a little deeper into a situation, especially when it comes to a dream or a "wish" and to follow my heart and not my head (within reason of course). Every action has a consequence , every word uttered has a repercussion. These are the rules I try to base my life on, and of course the teachings of Christ (the hardest path in the world to follow, they dont call it the straight and narrow for nothing!)
I know I am still young in years, and undoubtedly will make mistakes. I have confidence however that I am capable of doing anything through Christs strength. I have gotten myself into situations that a child should not have been in (emotionally) and as a consequence have gained a lot more insight into the workings of the world than others the same age as I am.
I will someday follow the soft whisperings in my heart to persue my career dream, the time is not right now. But rest assured when I am old and grey I will not sit down and say to my grandchildren "I should have" I will be saying "I did".
I was very fortunate to have a mother and father who aided me in looking beyond the material things in life and digging a little deeper into a situation, especially when it comes to a dream or a "wish" and to follow my heart and not my head (within reason of course). Every action has a consequence , every word uttered has a repercussion. These are the rules I try to base my life on, and of course the teachings of Christ (the hardest path in the world to follow, they dont call it the straight and narrow for nothing!)
I know I am still young in years, and undoubtedly will make mistakes. I have confidence however that I am capable of doing anything through Christs strength. I have gotten myself into situations that a child should not have been in (emotionally) and as a consequence have gained a lot more insight into the workings of the world than others the same age as I am.
I will someday follow the soft whisperings in my heart to persue my career dream, the time is not right now. But rest assured when I am old and grey I will not sit down and say to my grandchildren "I should have" I will be saying "I did".
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I see most of us voted right down the middle, a few regrets. Like most of you, I've made some bad choices. I think my biggest regret is having that terrible fight with my father 27 Dec '01, we have not spoken since and it appears we will never speak again. His health is failing rather quickly and I know his time on this earth is short. Some of y'all know what happened and I will not go into details about the situation, OH how I wish I could speak to him again but I know it will never happen thanks to my step mother and step brother!
Dennis
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Way to go, Amanzi! You have a great attitude.
Dennis - I don't know the details about your situation, so I should really MYOB, but please don't let anyone stand in the way of healing a broken relationship with your father. The chances of reconciliation may be small today, but they'll be below zero the day he's gone.
Mary - There are a lot of children highly allergic to all sorts of things. Who knows why? Bee stings come to mind, but I don't think there are thousands of pregnant women out there getting stung everyday. My son is lactose intolerant, yet I hardly had any dairy while pregnant. (my daughter however is a "dairy queen") Anyway, just hoping you don't blame yourself for your daughter's allergy to peanuts.
Overall happy here at age 40 with just a few regrets:
1. I wish I wasn't so rebellious as a teenager. Looking back, the risks I took were just plain stupid. My poor mom, who doesn't know the half of it! I fear that I will be paid back tenfold, as my kids are now approaching their teens.
2. I wish I had quit work after my son was born. He just should never have been a daycare baby. We had some unpleasant daycare experiences, and although I don't think it was the cause, but it probably contributed to some of his later special needs.
3. I wish I had spent more time with my grandmother before she died in June '01 and documented some of our family history, labeled the old pictures in her cedar chest, and wrote down some of her recipes!
Dennis - I don't know the details about your situation, so I should really MYOB, but please don't let anyone stand in the way of healing a broken relationship with your father. The chances of reconciliation may be small today, but they'll be below zero the day he's gone.
Mary - There are a lot of children highly allergic to all sorts of things. Who knows why? Bee stings come to mind, but I don't think there are thousands of pregnant women out there getting stung everyday. My son is lactose intolerant, yet I hardly had any dairy while pregnant. (my daughter however is a "dairy queen") Anyway, just hoping you don't blame yourself for your daughter's allergy to peanuts.
Overall happy here at age 40 with just a few regrets:
1. I wish I wasn't so rebellious as a teenager. Looking back, the risks I took were just plain stupid. My poor mom, who doesn't know the half of it! I fear that I will be paid back tenfold, as my kids are now approaching their teens.
2. I wish I had quit work after my son was born. He just should never have been a daycare baby. We had some unpleasant daycare experiences, and although I don't think it was the cause, but it probably contributed to some of his later special needs.
3. I wish I had spent more time with my grandmother before she died in June '01 and documented some of our family history, labeled the old pictures in her cedar chest, and wrote down some of her recipes!
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My biggest regrets are the words of kindness I wish I had said, but didn't. I wish now I'd forgiven my father a decade or two ago and not two years ago. I wish I'd told elderly relatives I loved them more before they passed on. I wish now I'd told Becky I loved her more, gave her more kind words, and brotherly hugs before she moved away to the Pacific Northwest. It's strange but we're much closer today 2600 miles away than we were living in the same house.
I actually feel very fortunate with few regrets. I am blessed to experience the kindness and compassion everyday from hundreds of friends I've never even met. I feel so fortunate to have been born in a land of freedom, free from tyranny and oppression. At age 41, I've never suffered any major injuries, have endured no surgeries, haven't spent a night in the hospital as a patient since the age of nine.
I suppose many of us would sometimes like to turn back time, return to age 16, 18, or 21 and start over with the wisdom we have learned since....I am no exception; but all in all life's been good.
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PW
I actually feel very fortunate with few regrets. I am blessed to experience the kindness and compassion everyday from hundreds of friends I've never even met. I feel so fortunate to have been born in a land of freedom, free from tyranny and oppression. At age 41, I've never suffered any major injuries, have endured no surgeries, haven't spent a night in the hospital as a patient since the age of nine.
I suppose many of us would sometimes like to turn back time, return to age 16, 18, or 21 and start over with the wisdom we have learned since....I am no exception; but all in all life's been good.
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I may have actually voted for the wrong one.
Though I've been fortunate in many things, however, I have way too many disappointments and regrets to name ... Some things I have had happen I can't control, well, most of them ... however, it doesn't change the fact that I still dwell on many of those things ...
Being in love and then losing that love (through no fault of my own ... just very bad timing and luck, I guess) continues to haunt me still ... as much as I try not to be down on it because there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it, no matter what I tried or said. I can't help but feel the lives we would have made would be absolutely true and perfect filled with love, happiness, and eternity. I still have dreams about it.
This still makes it hard ... I'm meeting some new people now, but no one even comes close, except maybe one - however, my luck pertaining women that I become interested in is not very good. Ironic, isn't it. Most women that do want more than a "friendship" with me are the type of women I'm not interested in. I don't believe that would be fair to that person (though I did have a year-long relationship with one - which I regret doing that, too, now). I do have some high hopes with a nice lady named Susan I met Saturday. I have become pretty interested in her, and would like to know if something is indeed there. She is looking for a lifetime deal as well as I ... and both of us look ready to settle down, hopefully, it could be with each other. She's beautiful, interesting, outgoing, and pretty easy to talk to...something not common with the ladies around my area.
I have a lot of other regrets as well ... bad choices that I made earlier in life, in which, one I still am paying for ... (literally).
Though I've been fortunate in many things, however, I have way too many disappointments and regrets to name ... Some things I have had happen I can't control, well, most of them ... however, it doesn't change the fact that I still dwell on many of those things ...
Being in love and then losing that love (through no fault of my own ... just very bad timing and luck, I guess) continues to haunt me still ... as much as I try not to be down on it because there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it, no matter what I tried or said. I can't help but feel the lives we would have made would be absolutely true and perfect filled with love, happiness, and eternity. I still have dreams about it.
This still makes it hard ... I'm meeting some new people now, but no one even comes close, except maybe one - however, my luck pertaining women that I become interested in is not very good. Ironic, isn't it. Most women that do want more than a "friendship" with me are the type of women I'm not interested in. I don't believe that would be fair to that person (though I did have a year-long relationship with one - which I regret doing that, too, now). I do have some high hopes with a nice lady named Susan I met Saturday. I have become pretty interested in her, and would like to know if something is indeed there. She is looking for a lifetime deal as well as I ... and both of us look ready to settle down, hopefully, it could be with each other. She's beautiful, interesting, outgoing, and pretty easy to talk to...something not common with the ladies around my area.
I have a lot of other regrets as well ... bad choices that I made earlier in life, in which, one I still am paying for ... (literally).
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You guys may not know this about me, but my biggest regrets now are committing assault and battery on my parents. Especially my mother and stepmother.
It's part of my Asperger's Syndrome and autism, and it hurts to think about it. I love them both to death, and I can't even imagine that I would have ever done such a thing to either of them now that I have changed my life for the better. 


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I won't go into FULL details but here's a little snip of what happened.
As you know, my wife and I are sworn law officers with the White Mountain Apache Police, at the time, we were sworn officers with Navajo County Sheriffs Dept here in town. ANYWAYS, my father is married to a woman (I refuse to call her anything BUT my step mother) my paternal mother passed away more that 8 years ago, anyhow.....this woman has a son, 34 years old now, who was a convicted child molester in the state of Kentucky, he was released from prison 3 years ago, came out to live my father and his wife. Come to find out, the SOB (and yes, that is my TRUE feelings on this SOB, ANYONE who molests a child IS....I won't say EXACTLY what I think) did NOT register in the state of Arizona as a sexual offender, WELL, "I HAD to turn him in, I had no OTHER choice in the matter, it is my SWORN duty to report such activity!" Soooooo, you can just imagine what that did to my father and his family, they have not spoken to me since! I HAD to turn him in, if not, we stood a chance of going to prison ourselves, I'm SORRY, I WILL NOT go to the pen. for ANYONE!
Dennis
As you know, my wife and I are sworn law officers with the White Mountain Apache Police, at the time, we were sworn officers with Navajo County Sheriffs Dept here in town. ANYWAYS, my father is married to a woman (I refuse to call her anything BUT my step mother) my paternal mother passed away more that 8 years ago, anyhow.....this woman has a son, 34 years old now, who was a convicted child molester in the state of Kentucky, he was released from prison 3 years ago, came out to live my father and his wife. Come to find out, the SOB (and yes, that is my TRUE feelings on this SOB, ANYONE who molests a child IS....I won't say EXACTLY what I think) did NOT register in the state of Arizona as a sexual offender, WELL, "I HAD to turn him in, I had no OTHER choice in the matter, it is my SWORN duty to report such activity!" Soooooo, you can just imagine what that did to my father and his family, they have not spoken to me since! I HAD to turn him in, if not, we stood a chance of going to prison ourselves, I'm SORRY, I WILL NOT go to the pen. for ANYONE!
Dennis
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azsnowman wrote:Thanks SF.....ya know, the SLIME BAG tried pulling the wool over all of our eyes. So do I regret doing this? HE** NO! I'm waiting in the wings for this slime bag to screw up ONE more time, I know, God says leave revenge up to Him, I can't WAIT that long "LOL!"
Dennis
You're welcome, Dennis ...
He'll get his in the end of his time, but it has to be awfully tempting to ...*cough* ... accelerate the process. (pulling the switch.)
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The ONLY thing I will ever regret in my entire life is the fact that I should have listened to my parents in 1983 for once in my life. Had I listened to them, I would have never been in a car accident that injured my sister critically and myself and killed my best friend!!! Even though the accident was not my fault, it still haunts me everyday. 

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