Am I wrong or right?

JetMaxx · #1 Postby **JetMaxx** » Tue May 13, 2003 8:38 pm

I nearly lost a good friend yesterday...a guy I've known since the 8th grade. What provoked it?
I went by his home (at his invitation) to drop off some Skywarn information -- he's interested in becoming a storm spotter.

His 29 year old girlfriend opens the front door wearing NOTHING (nude). Needless to say, I was taken aback..tried to look the other way, and left as quickly as I could (she was home alone, and it was after 1 p.m.). He got upset at me last night...because I refused to enter the house. I told him as politely as possible that I didn't care for that type of behavior. He called me a "square", and insinuated they both went nude all the time inside their home.

Number one, I'd likely never marry a woman that pranced nude around the house all day. My mom didn't do it, nor my sisters. Regardless of what my friend and his girlfriend do in their own home...is it too much to ask for her to at least have the decency to put on a housecoat or robe when answering the door; especially to a stranger (I'd never met this woman in my life).

Was I wrong to tell him I was shocked and offended??

Thanks,
Perry

#2 Postby **bfez1** » Tue May 13, 2003 8:43 pm

Not at all and I wouldn't have entered the house either. She should have had respect for herself as much as for you.

azsnowman · #3 Postby **azsnowman** » Tue May 13, 2003 8:46 pm

Not at ALL! Ya know, society in general has gone donw the tubes, no morals what so ever! Actually, it's a GOOD thing that you didn't enter, knowing people and the way things are these days, had you entered, she might have called 911 and said you raped her!

Dennis

breeze · #4 Postby **breeze** » Tue May 13, 2003 8:48 pm

Not wrong at all, Perry! I am pretty open-minded, but, I would
never go to the door like that! Sounds like someone really
doesn't care, or, really doesn't care if friends are offended...
time to consider who true friends are!

Amanzi · #5 Postby **Amanzi** » Tue May 13, 2003 9:01 pm

Perry, you were right in my opinoin not to enter the house, and to tell your friend you disaproved of such behavior!

I would be utterly horrified, if such a thing had to happened to me. I consider this ladies actions very unlady like and she is asking for trouble! Who in there right mind answers the door with NO CLOTHES on! It is one thing to be comfortable with nudity in your own home, but another to outrightly offend people!

Well done to you Perry for standing your ground!

Nalora · #6 Postby **Nalora** » Tue May 13, 2003 9:02 pm

I would have dropped off a bag of clothes from the local thrift on the doorstep.

Nalora
fully clothed...

weatherlover427 · #7 Postby **weatherlover427** » Tue May 13, 2003 9:06 pm

You are 200% right, Perry. I would not enter if it was my friend either. That is immature and inappropriate behavior IMO.

#8 Postby **pojo** » Tue May 13, 2003 9:14 pm

There is no way that I would have entered the house. Perry stand your ground.

Lindaloo · #9 Postby **Lindaloo** » Tue May 13, 2003 9:37 pm

Perry.. I believe it is time for you to move on and find some more decent friends. IMO, they have NO respect for you and it sounds like they could careless about what your opinion could be of them. Some people. :roll:

#10 Postby **streetsoldier** » Tue May 13, 2003 10:15 pm

Perry, if we don't stand for something, we will "fall" for anything...you did what you believed was the right and decent thing to do, and NO one should "fault" you for taking a stance.

BTW, I'd have done much the same...but a lot more outspoken about it at the time.

Miss Mary · #11 Postby **Miss Mary** » Tue May 13, 2003 10:25 pm

Ditto here - you did the right thing Perry, IMO. And as Dennis said, good thing you didn't enter that house. You can't be too careful these days...no telling what a person will do, as witnessed here.

Hold your head up high, you've nothing to be ashamed of.

Nalora, loved your reply. You're fitting in perfectly at Storm2K!!!!

rainstorm · #12 Postby **rainstorm** » Tue May 13, 2003 10:40 pm

good stuff never happens to me. i never knock on a door a naked man answers

Miss Mary · #13 Postby **Miss Mary** » Tue May 13, 2003 10:47 pm

rainstorm, awww, never happens to me either......

Actually the things I saw years ago while boating with my family. Usually at boat ramps or at the marina (coming, going, gassing up). Swimsuits optional it seemed like back then. Mid 80s.....usually it was people drinking too much and being in the sun all day. The two combined were not good. My dad always kept his binoculars handy! You never knew what you were going to see.....feel sorry for any families back then. I did see my fair share of bizarre things then.....eons ago now.

#14 Postby **vbhoutex** » Wed May 14, 2003 12:23 am

You did absolutely the right thing Perry! I am very liberal minded about that type of behavior, as long as it is behind closed doors. As stated above, it is good that you have as much respect as you do for yourself and others. Not tellling you what to do, but I'd certainly curtail my contact with that couple.

JetMaxx · #15 Postby **JetMaxx** » Wed May 14, 2003 12:44 am

Thanks for the support folks. I've known that guy for 28 years....we've been fishing, went to lunch; and I had no idea he walked around his house all day as a nudist (he didn't the last time I was there before yesterday).

In all honesty, I think his new girlfriend is a very bad influence. His marriage ended in divorce about 18 months ago (and I thought he was making a mistake...Carly is a good woman). Now he's 40, living with a woman in her late 20's, and making a fool of himself.

I hadn't been to his home since before his divorce, and never expected what occurred in my wildest nightmare (it's never happened to me before, nor to anyone in my family).

Again, thanks everyone! I knew my conscience was right...I thought that young woman was insane (still do :lol:

God Bless,
Perry

JetMaxx · #16 Postby **JetMaxx** » Wed May 14, 2003 12:50 am

vbhoutex wrote:Not tellling you what to do, but I'd certainly curtail my contact with that couple.

I'm praying for them David. They know better. I'm not going back to his home again. Neither one of them showed me an ounce of respect.

#17 Postby **coriolis** » Wed May 14, 2003 12:55 am

Well, late as usual, JetMaxx, I'll add my support for the stand you are taking. This could be a joking matter but I'll show my respect for you and shut up.

fixitmhn · #18 Postby **fixitmhn** » Wed May 14, 2003 7:32 am

Perry,
You were absolutely, positively right not to enter the house. You have nothing to apologize for!

Marvin

JQ Public · #19 Postby **JQ Public** » Wed May 14, 2003 1:27 pm

You were not in the wrong so losing that friend was probably the best thing for you. Some people should have the decency to put on some clothes. Yes its alright in their home but not when answering the door.

#20 Postby **wx247** » Wed May 14, 2003 1:35 pm

Wow... I have never had that happen to me, but you would think that she would have had sense enough to put on a robe or something. What if it had been the newspaper or the police? :lol:

You did the right thing!

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