Need Advice Big Time

[conestogo_flood]

Well, please don't judge me in a bad way about this, I don't have any adults I can go to with this because it's so huge.

I've gone and done it. I got myself officially kicked out for good, after two weeks this year out of the house. I have until November 7, 2006 to find a place to live. This means I got to drop out of school, and I don't know what to do.

I'm not exactly upset over this, I'm kind of glad that it finally happened instead of tiny bursts throughout the year. But now I don't know what to do.

I'm going to switch my job at the Wendys to full-time if I can't find anyone to live with. It's only a minimum wage job, $7.50/hour, so I don't think working part-time will be good enough. I am going to try to work ways out right now but I am semi-confused. I'm thinking about moving in with my friend Chris in his basement apartment, I'll pay half the rent a month for as long as I stay. But, this isn't finalized. I haven't even talking to him, if I can't I'm going to have to drop out of school no doubt. I will probably end up anyways. I really don't know what I am doing right now, or what to do.
So, I guess what I am asking is, has anyone here been in this situation?
Is anyone here a high school drop out? And, what did you do?

Also, any thoughts or advice on what I should consider doing or buying ahead of time would be appreciated. I wont have a computer, so I wont be on storm2k until I buy one or am able to afford internet.

Would a cell phone be cheaper than having a phone line?

[brunota2003]

ummm...never been in that situation...however I can tell you that, at least around here, if your in high school, your job is dependant on you going to school...if you drop out, chances are they drop you...I dont know if its like that anywhere else though...You will be lucky to make ends meet even full time with minimum wage depending on your situation and how taxes/bills are up there...you will have an extremely hard time finding jobs that are good paying without your high school degree though...good luck is all I can say...

[Lindaloo]

Kicked out of what house? Your parents? How old are you?

[rainstorm]

good luck to you. can you provide more details?

[jusforsean]

I suppose they (assuming its your parents ) are instilling a tough love tactic? Hoever I do not think you should drop out its hard enough to find a good job without a college degree let alone without a high school diploma. What grade are you in? Can you test out for your GED, I wouldnt recommend it but its an option then you can register for a local community college apply for financial aid and loans or grants and that will give you some money on top of the wages you earn and with college at least you will be heading tword a good thing and the schedule is flexible so that you can work. Also you will have computer access there. I dont know enough details, but what did you do to get the boot anyway??

[GalvestonDuck]

I can't really speak from experience. But let me tell you, dropping out of high school is the last thing you want to do. Regardless of whether you have to live in a friend's apartment, a room in a boarding house, or sleep on a cot in a homeless shelter in order to have a roof over your head, do NOT drop out of high school. From what I've heard, you'll regret it for years to come and it will only make things more difficult in the long run.

Do you absolutely have to move out? Is your relationship with your parents salvagable?

Maybe this will refresh your memory about some advice that we gave you earlier this year - http://www.storm2k.org/phpbb2/viewtopic.php?t=84359

[rainstorm]

"I skip school, like all teens do, but if my dad answers he throws a kaniption fit. He says it is bad, and I shouldn't be pressured to. He tells me I can be the example for my friends, to not skip. He thinks if I don't, they'll stop. When I tried to explain it's just what happens in high school, from which he never attended, I think, he says I don't know what I am talking about and I just don't get life. I have always got Ds and Cs in school, but lately he talks like I get As, and I will attend university and whatnot. My mom knows I never will, and when she talks to him about it, he gets mad and leaves. That probably sounds normal for parents, but mine are different, I just can't explain it like it happens. "

not all teens skip school. and however bad your dad may be he just wants to be proud of you for going to college. you better get your high school diploma. if not, you will only be able to find the most menial kinds of work. can you patch things up with your parents? maybe an "im sorry and i love you" will help

[rainstorm]

and even if you have poor grades, there are lots of community type colleges you can go to, or perhaps a trade school if you have your hs diploma

[HollynLA]

I don't understand why you're parents are kicking you out of the house when you're still in school.

But, finishing school is in your best interest, no doubt about it. My dh is a high school drop out, but he did go back and get his GED, then he went to night school for several years (only 2 nights a week) for welding. He became certified in specialized materials and now makes a 6 figure salary. It's possible, but it doesn't happen to many. You must have a plan and be determined.

[rainstorm]

dont surround yourself with people that bring you down. its easy for people to tell you why you will fail in life. lots of people are miserable and want you to be as miserable as they are. find people that have suceeded in life and who will encourage you. i am sure you can work through this, one step at a time

[conestogo_flood]

I stole from my parents and my brother, mutliple times. Hundreds of dollars worth of stuff, maybe close to a thousand. Then, I stopped going to school, and I never come home anymore.

It's why I'm getting kicked out.

[Stratosphere747]

Not sure why you are coming here for advice.... You were given sound advice by your parents.

MGC hit the "nail on the head" in the previous thread.

Sounds like it will take you some needless suffering to understand.

[Tstormwatcher]

I stole from my parents and my brother, mutliple times. Hundreds of dollars worth of stuff, maybe close to a thousand. Then, I stopped going to school, and I never come home anymore.

It's why I'm getting kicked out.

It sounds like you are your own worst enemy. I would have kicked you out too. You need to grow up and start acting like an adult. In anothe ryear you could end up in jail for what you have done. Is that what you want? It only gets harder. Wait until you have a family depending on you. I know this sounds harsh but it sounds like you need some tough love right now. Good luck to you.

[rainstorm]

so, you have hit rock bottom. is it too late to apologize? i know its not too late to go back to school. you have the power to change your life, so start changing it now. if you show your family you want to change, they will work with you. i wish you all the best and pray things work out. your parents dont want you to fail because they see you as an extension of themselves

[tomboudreau]

I know this is going to sound harsh...but you did this to yourself. You need to take responsiblity for your actions and if this is the punshiment that your parents feel is necessary. Kids feel that they dont have to take responsibility for their actions and by the sounds of it, your not willing to take responsibility for your actions. I'm sorry this sounds harsh.

[nholley]

Wow...that is one of the worst things you can do to your own family. I would say getting kicked out is letting you off lightly.

My question to you is this...are you sorry for what you did? If you are sorry...are you sorry simply because you are getting kicked out?

If you are truly sorry for what you did then the fist thing to do is go out and find a job that you can do after school. When you have done that go home and take anything you have of value and sell it. Next off go to the bank and empty your account. Go home, get your family together and talk to them. Tell them you are sorry, tell them you have got work after school to pay for what you took, give them all the money you have raised and beg them to not kick you out. As for one final chance at home. You cannot get anywhere really without finishing school. If you have dreams and aspirations for the future then you need to finish school. Get on your hands and knees and beg them....at least until you finish school.

[Dustin]

Hell I don't blame your parents....

You need to get a job, stay in school, stop stealing, taking drugs, drinking etc, and apologise to your parents.

[kmanWX]

conestogo_flood, you're kind of screwed yourself over when you stolen 1000's of dollars from your family. That's an extremely terrible thing. However you need to show them you can be trusted once again. If you are working you better pay them back all of the money you stolen from them. If you were to be dropping out of school and want to make money legally you're be pretty much lucked out. I believe you could get an ok commission based job w/o an HS diploma however its not really recommended to. My advice is to stay in school. Otherwise you will regret it sometime in the near future.

[george_r_1961]

You said you never go home, so I surmise you already have a place to stay. What did you spend the money you stole on? Dope?? Booze???? When people your age stoop to stealing from family thats usually where the money goes, and id bet thats the case here.

nholley gave some good advice. But im afraid without some PROFESSIONAL intervention you will soon revert back to the same behavior that put you where you are at now. I think we've talked about this before. Take the consequences of your actions like a man. Go to school full time and work full time so you can get your diploma and pay your family back. Get professional counseling for the issues you have and do what the counselors say. Sure you wont have any free time at all but you really dont need that now do you? Every waking moment should be spent getting your life in order. In the end you will be a better person for it.

[Lindaloo]

Well said george!!