Update:The story that just won't die!!! :(

[Josephine96]

true.. lol.. it happens.. I'm not perfect.. nobody is The responses were fair and honest. There's only 1 part of the story I left out and it really I don't think is really that relevant anyhow..

[CajunMama]

then why did you say, "theres' parts of this story I probably haven't told u". What was the purpose of that then if it wasn't relevent?

[Miss Mary]

John - what I'm about to say may sound shocking and unfair. But please hear me out. I was searching through old topics the other day, looking for very funny ones to ressurrect (of which we have a few of them) and I would come across topics from 2003 and 2004, I didn't even get to 2005, topics you started very similar in nature to this one. We've been down this road a lot (with you and a few other younger, S2K members, who shall remain nameless) who want to post extremely personal details about their private, dating lives. Why? I simply don't know why! Is this an offshoot of say myspace perhaps? Where everyone in your generation feels compelled to post very personal blog/diary/journal type comments about themselves, for the general public (here all S2K members) to read? Yes, perhaps that is prevalent and common in your age group. Again I have to ask myself why? When I was your age, I confided in only a few close friends about my dating woes (and by then I was already married, age 20) and might have kept a diary until my early 20s. But along the way I kept my private life, just that - private.

When you ask for such personal advice and then are given it, in message board format, I firmly believe you've lost the right to criticize it (go back to old topics you've started).

I am deeply sorry if these comments upset you but they are truly how I feel. And I mean you absoulutely no harm by saying them. Although I do know you may feel hurt by them. I do wish you well in your relationships, honestly I do. But why you post such personal details, who said what to whom, who did what, what others at work think, is a complete and utter mystery to this baby boomer.

There, I'm done and now sound exactly like my parents' generation (when they couldn't understand why we wanted to listen to the Beatles or burn incense!).

This whole blog thing is just beyond my understanding.

Mary

[sunny]

I gotta agree with Mary. Some things are just meant to be private or discussed with only certain people. JMO.

[Janice]

I think when you come to vent and get advice and you choose not to take that advise, it frustrates people. A lot of people told you to just give her space and you just continued to come up with reasons to call her just one more time. The situation here is evident to many. If you do not take advice, then that is when you need to stop continuing with this thread. You vented, we responded and you continued doing things your way. We got burnt out...

[Lindaloo]

Well said Mary. And I for one do not care to hear about anyone's IBS nor if it is that time of month for goodness sakes!!

[Pburgh]

What?? We have made this place a refuge for many who have, for the past 3 years, come here to ask advice. They have come here thinking we are a "family". This is what we profess to be. We pray for those who need prayers and advise those who need advice. Many of the younger generation consider this board the same way we "older" people considered our best friends. They consider this a place where they can discuss their problems. I'm sorry but if I don't want to respond to a thread, I don't. Even though our advice may not be taken and we get frustrated, we can't just pour out the baby with the bathwater.JMHO

[artist]

pburgh - good post! How insensitive to those that ask for help or advice. If noone wants to hear anything personal then why respond to posts for prayers, etc. as well? True - maybe not all advise is taken but it is obviuos there are some on here that need someone to talk to as they don't really have anyone else in their lives. What if we were in that same circumstance??
I am sorry - I just feel that comments that were made above by a few are what destroys a place like this. If all anyone whats is the superficial then how can you call it a family??? Many feelings were just hurt by the posts above. What happened to caring about our fellow man?
My first and last words on how I feel.

[Josephine96]

Ok guys.. I can take a hint.. no more personal trials and tribulations regarding what goes on in my personal life.. I just need to vent sometimes.. understood.. I will surrender peacefully

Oh and btw.. I never called her 1 more time.. Last time I tried was lunch Sunday.. I took those words into consideration. Calling her 1 more time would have been a waste of my time..

I'm just thinking that next time I hear from her if it ever occurs again. She'll have to learn 2 words. Get lost!

and yes I know we've been down this road before, I can name the names I'm sure lol.. I expect to hear the criticism. and btw.. I am not "steamed and frustrated" at you guys or my co workers. I'm steamed and frustrated at the fact that 1 more x a young lady chose to use me for what she thought I was worth and then drop me like a bad habit.

Oh well.. who knows.. I'm just completely I don't know lol

{takes a deep breath and just ponders lol}

[tropicana]

Always remember too...there are other fine fish in the ocean!!
Life doesn't revolve around Toni alone.

That being said, it's all part of the growing experience. You wouldn't have known if anything might have come with it, if you didn't try it...so keep your chin up.

-justin-

[Josephine96]

thank you Justin, If I hear 1 more fish analogy I'm gonna.. never mind lol.

[Lindaloo]

pburgh - good post! How insensitive to those that ask for help or advice. If noone wants to hear anything personal then why respond to posts for prayers, etc. as well? True - maybe not all advise is taken but it is obviuos there are some on here that need someone to talk to as they don't really have anyone else in their lives. What if we were in that same circumstance??
I am sorry - I just feel that comments that were made above by a few are what destroys a place like this. If all anyone whats is the superficial then how can you call it a family??? Many feelings were just hurt by the posts above. What happened to caring about our fellow man?
My first and last words on how I feel.

Voicing an opinion that does not totally agree with yours in no way destroys anything. That is what makes us stand out above the rest. If Miss Mary did not care about Josephine she would not have even tried to "Mother" him. That is all that was about. You do not know our family that well is all I can say.

[Josephine96]

I don't mind being "mothered" at all either.. The advice I take from everybody I get it from..

[Lindaloo]

I don't mind being "mothered" at all either.. The advice I take from everybody I get it from..

I knew you would understand where Mary was coming from. You know we love ya, but you need to take some of our advice. No one deserves to be treated like that.

[Josephine96]

I did take it.. and I honestly have not called her at all.. I am playing the waiting game now because I know when she's in trouble again it's gonna be.."Johnny," and I'm gonna be like.. "Um no.. bye" lol..

I will not tolerate being used or abused and I am too nice of a person to have that happen too..

[Pburgh]

Miss Mary, I would never want to offend you and did not mean to do so. You know I love ya and your advice is always given with the utmost care. You are always thinking of the best for the other person. ((HUGS))
Karan

[tropicana]

If she calls ya, have a girl answer the phone and say, "Oh I'm so sorry, Johnny isn't available right now".
It takes two to tango.

-justin-

[Josephine96]

LOL there you go Justin.. thats cool..

[Josephine96]

I hate to bring up this thread again

Apparently Toni wants to play hardball still with Johnny boy Something disturbing happened at work a couple nights ago after I had left.

Between 11-Midnight, well after I had left.. Ms. Toni made a trip into my Wal Mart store and started talking trash.

Stating that "we never had a relationship" and that "Johns' a liar.." and a lot of other nasty things.

According to several co workers I have... 1 told me.. "Toni's not even worth your stress" My boss said.. "As long as YOU and GOD know what really happened, don't worry what Toni's trying to pull"

and someone else told me that if she ever came into the store when I was working.. " a war would break out on the sales floor":lol:

I'm glad my co workers are in my corner. But the fact that this story just won't die is making me aggravated lol..

Ok.. {off soapbox}

[Janice]

Well, don't let all this ruin your job. Things like this do not look good to the bosses.
I would just not talk about it anymore to the employees. Take it outside the store.