Update: Taking a trip in mom's memory..

therock1811 · #21 Postby **therock1811** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 7:47 pm

OMG John, that's horrible! And on Christmas too...

My condolences go to you and your family...take care of you and yours first, we're gonna be here when you come back...

Dee Bee · #22 Postby **Dee Bee** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 7:50 pm

My prayers and positive thoughts for strength, courage, and comfort are on their way.

Josephine96 · #23 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:41 pm

To answer 1 question.. shes been sick for a long time. Apparently my sister and her bf went to see her this morning and looked in her room through the window and saw her not moving..

Her house was locked so they broke in to see if she was OK.. Apparently she had been dead for perhaps a day or 2.. An autopsy will be done on her probably tomorrow..

Andrea was devastated for me because she hates to see me upset. She also told me she wants to be at my moms' funeral because she knows I'd need someone to lean on or cling too..

I'm still just shocked and awed.. Shedding some tears but not balling.. :cry:

I'm also undecided still on if I'm going to take my 3 bereavement days from wal mart.. I may just go to work tomorrow and see if I can handle it.. if I can't.. then we'll see..

#24 Postby **DaylilyDawn** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:53 pm

I could tell you to take your three days off. When My mom passed away in 2003 , she did it during the holidays also, one week before I had to be back on crossing guard duty. I cried for three days after it but I knew I needed to face the kids like nothing had happened so that they wouldn't suspect things were not right with me. It has been three years for me now but I still think of her and tears come but not as hard and not as often.

NEWeatherguy · #25 Postby **NEWeatherguy** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:56 pm

Josephine96 wrote:I may just go to work tomorrow and see if I can handle it.. if I can't.. then we'll see..

That would be the best course of action. I know I have actually been known to do better with death working for some reason ( I had to deal with my uncle passign away earlir this year), but the difference is I saw myy uncle's death coming. I am not sure if I could handle it if it happened out of the blue.

Just test the waters and see if you feel comfortable...

Josephine96 · #26 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 8:58 pm

Andrea and her mom believe I should take the 3 days off as well.. If I take them though.. I might use them to run away from this for 3 days and go to Andrea's and hide 4 3 days..

But.. I think I'll just tough it out.. I wanna be the strong 1.. not the weakling who will crumble into a million pieces.. {Though I've already been told more than 1x if I crumble into a million pieces thats fine}..

I just wish my sis and bro would make the arrangements and then I could get past this. I know.. have some patience because the funeral will be sometime this week I'm sure..

Oh I hate the fact that I'm alone now at 24.. :cry:

I know.. I'm not alone, I have my brothers and sisters, I have Andrea and her mom, I have work, I have u guys but I still kinda feel alone..

NEWeatherguy · #27 Postby **NEWeatherguy** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:02 pm

Josephine96 wrote:Andrea and her mom believe I should take the 3 days off as well.. If I take them though.. I might use them to run away from this for 3 days and go to Andrea's and hide 4 3 days..

But.. I think I'll just tough it out.. I wanna be the strong 1.. not the weakling who will crumble into a million pieces.. {Though I've already been told more than 1x if I crumble into a million pieces thats fine}..

I just wish my sis and bro would make the arrangements and then I could get past this. I know.. have some patience because the funeral will be sometime this week I'm sure..

Oh I hate the fact that I'm alone now at 24.. I know.. I'm not alone, I have my brothers and sisters, I have Andrea and her mom, I have work, I have u guys but I still kinda feel alone..

Trust me, I have been known to "lose it" through the three or so deaths that have happened close to me.......it is entirely acceptable.

You lost your mom. It is entirely understandable, I'm sure, by your co-workers, Andrea/her mom, your other friends and, of course, your S2K friends.

On the other hand, it is worth a shot at "toughing" it out. I would side with Andrea and her mom about taking three days off.

Josephine96 · #28 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:04 pm

here we go again.. decisions decisions lol

NEWeatherguy · #29 Postby **NEWeatherguy** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:07 pm

Josephine96 wrote:here we go again.. decisions decisions lol

No delimma here. I am sure Wal-Mart would understand under these circumstances. Three or four days off from the regular grind can aid in the grieving process. Or, perhaps you can work out a shorter shift schedule
.

#30 Postby **wx247** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:12 pm

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Josephine96 · #31 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 9:14 pm

I think working might actually help me out.. but we'll see what happens tomorrow.. If I wake up feeling lousy I may just do it.. we'll see..

CajunMama · #32 Postby **CajunMama** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:27 pm

I am sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. Everyone grieves differently. If you feel you think being at work is the best thing for you then do that. You may choose to take your 3 days off following the funeral.

#33 Postby **sweetpea** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:54 pm

Very sorry to hear about your loss. Prayers going out to you and your family.

Chacor · #34 Postby **Chacor** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 11:11 pm

Wow... I was stunned when I saw this thread. My sincere condolences on your loss. Take care.

Website · #35 Postby **Brent** » Mon Dec 25, 2006 11:50 pm

Josephine96 wrote:Her house was locked so they broke in to see if she was OK.. Apparently she had been dead for perhaps a day or 2.. An autopsy will be done on her probably tomorrow..

That's really sad... :cry:

Dying alone like that.

Miss Mary · #36 Postby **Miss Mary** » Tue Dec 26, 2006 12:23 am

Oh John - my heart if going out to you tonight as well. I am just as shocked as you are. Please know we are here for you. You were a wonderful son and I'm sure your mother knew that. Take comfort in the loving memories you have of your mom.

I'm so very, very sorry John.

Mary

#37 Postby **angelwing** » Tue Dec 26, 2006 7:22 am

Oh geez, I am very very sorry to hear that, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

LaPlaceFF · #38 Postby **LaPlaceFF** » Tue Dec 26, 2006 9:20 am

Prayers going out to you, John. By all means Take your 3 days off. You do get bereavement pay from Wal-Mart

tropicana · #39 Postby **tropicana** » Tue Dec 26, 2006 9:27 am

John, thinking of you in this terrible time.

#40 Postby **AnnularCane** » Tue Dec 26, 2006 10:25 am

How awful! I'm so sorry to hear that. ((((HUGS))))

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