More heartbreak.. Andrea left me :(

[alicia-w]

I understand the anger and all that, but throwing her things away may make you feel good for a little bit, but not in the long run. imagine how you would feel in the same spot. they arent your things. i sure would hate to see you on one of the goofy Judge shows where she's seeking monetary reparations because you threw her stuff away without giving her a chance to pick it up. (or spend the $10 to send it to her...)

how quickly we go from head-over-heels-in-love-with-the-perfect-woman (that you, in retrospect, had all these suspicions about) to this.

[Josephine96]

Alicia..

With all due respect, Andrea told me.. "If I have to come up to Kissimmee and get my stuff, u can throw it out". I was tempted to send it to her.. But.. well, Um.. NO lol..

Worse comes to worse, the stuff she left at my house probably doesn't even equal a value of $100.. If it threatens to get ugly, I'll send her the $ and that would be the end of it.. and I hate to admit it, but ur right.. how quickly I went from an up to a down..

[wxmann_91]

Alicia..

With all due respect, Andrea told me.. "If I have to come up to Kissimmee and get my stuff, u can throw it out". I was tempted to send it to her.. But.. well, Um.. NO lol..

Worse comes to worse, the stuff she left at my house probably doesn't even equal a value of $100.. If it threatens to get ugly, I'll send her the $ and that would be the end of it.. and I hate to admit it, but ur right.. how quickly I went from an up to a down..

Those are called "anger words". Words you just let out of your mouth when reasoning is lost and you've been completely taken over by anger. I doubt that she meant it. It would be the right thing to do to just send them back to her. Just because she's been taken control by anger doesn't mean you need to be.

[NEWeatherguy]

John,
Who needs relationships, really? It seems like you run into situations that look good from the start, but several weeks later, you are on here letting lose about how the girl broke up with you.

Don't push so hard finding a girl; I tried with little, limited success. It is difficult to hold down a family--even a couple--working at Wal-Mart anyway unless you are the big coporate people in Arkansas. Go through school and get a career started or push hard to go up the ladder at Wal-Mart--and I am not talking a store-level job (unless maybe manager). I am talking an office job on the corporate level. Then, you can consider relationships.

[Miss Mary]

Great advice Brian!

[Josephine96]

Brian,

Ur right about 1 thing lol.. It might be hard establishing myself at Wal Mart with a woman on the side. I wanna keep working my way up the ladder. I want to eventually be a dept. manager {even if I have to transfer to another store to do it} I wanna eventually be a store manager at Wal Mart.

Plus if I can get the passion back for it, Go back 2 school and finish my Journalism degree.

A relationship would be nice. I want somebody every day to tell me "I love u" or someone who wants me for more than just my $ and well ya know lol..

My sister says I should just let the woman come, Cuz I aint going to find it looking.. which I'm sure is true..

Oh well.. We'll see..

[gtalum]

A funny thing abotu relationships: if you meet someone hoping to make a serious one, it probably won't work. You just got to take it as it comes. Don't worry about the ones that fail, as many will. You're also quite young yet. You should worry more about your career and about having fun than you do about love.

[Josephine96]

Many relationships have failed GT.. and many probably will continue to fail. Yes I am quite young, 24 and 2 months lol.. I worry about my job yes, having fun yes because I hope I can still have the $ to make my trip to TN..

But.. I want someone to love me. I know, I have more people that love me than I know.. But I mean.. REALLY love me.. someone who'll be with me for more than just my $ and my well ya know lol.. Someone that'll wanna be with me because they want someone to love them just as much as I. Someone who'll appreciate it every day. Not like Andrea who appreciated it till she got bored and then apted to apparently cheat.

I am noticing something too. Broken hearts have good days and bad days when they heal. Today's being 1 of the bad 1's.

[Derek Ortt]

But.. I want someone to love me. I know, I have more people that love me than I know.. But I mean.. REALLY love me.. someone who'll be with me for more than just my $ and my well ya know lol.. Someone that'll wanna be with me because they want someone to love them just as much as I. Someone who'll appreciate it every day. Not like Andrea who appreciated it till she got bored and then apted to apparently cheat.

John,

This may sound a bit harsh, but you may need to mature just a little before being able to hold down a relationship.

When you are saying that you want someone to REALLY love you, it strikes me as you not appreciating those who REALLY do love you. Almost as if you may be taking them for granted. Additionally, you continue to use that person's name even after you siad it may not be a good idea. Either that, or a bit of greed for love (always wanting more) like I have with sports gambling (always wanting to win more).

I am not asking you to take my advice, but consider it some. I just don't want you to end up like a certain someone that I know who I no longer visit because of similar traits (though would visit if the person ever grows up)

[Josephine96]

Hi Derek,

Doesn't sound harsh at all.. I don't take anyone for granted. At least I try not too anyway. I have a heart thats been shattered, and it seems sometimes like it's been getting worse. Remember, I'm dealing with a death and another sour relationship right now..

I probably continue to use the A word because as much as she hurt me, abused me for my $ and for well ya know.. I do still love her. I'm trying to vent and let this run it's course. I know it's not going to take a week, a month, or even longer..

I just feel alone because the 1 person I would be crying to, leaning to for support, calling every 5 mins lol is no longer alive.. This A thing is really hurting probably for that 1 reason.. I don't have mom to run and cry too. My older sis has told me not to worry and if i have to vent to her every day till it's out of my system, go ahead..

I'm just completely confused..

[NEWeatherguy]

Remember, I'm dealing with a death and another sour relationship right now.

I had a crappy 2006. My uncle, who I loved dearly, passed away after a 26-day stay in the hospital, my first dog had to be put down and school was beating me over the head with a journalism textbook. Did I run to the first girl I saw and jump into her arms and start a relationship? No. My past history (albeit short) with relationships prevented me from being desparate (the high-labor journalism courses also had a part in that. ) . I stuck with God, friends (not serious relationships) and family to get me through the situations.

I know where you are coming from. Yes, my uncle died, not my mother. But still you should take at least a year off from woman-looking and let things calm down. Get your future career goals going. I am only being paid $10 per story I am writing for my university's paper. Trust me. Although I am keeping things open and will not turn a relationship away, I am not going to run a relationship much past the dating stage until a get greater income and a more presitgious career before I jump much past the girlfriend stage.

[Josephine96]

remember.. Andrea and I were dating b4 my mom died.. so I did not "rush into a womans arms" or jump into any relationships..

At the same time, Andrea and I's relationship seemed to go south right after mom died.. so.. who knows..

I'm trying to heal my double broken heart and it seems to be healing quite nicely. Lets hope I don't have any extra issues to report lol..