Personal Ad's Online (Like Match.com, etc) - good or bad?

Stormsfury · #1 Postby **Stormsfury** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 7:27 pm

Just wondering what people think about online dating ... I was going to make this a poll question, but I want to see actual posts and thoughts on this without a poll ...

I did this before and placed an ad but never paid to be a member, and hence, I never got a reply or response or a shout-out before ... I took it down after thinking I had found the one (but not from the result of the personal ad) ... Anyways, I was thinking about maybe putting one back up and actually paying for the membership fees this time around ...

Soooooo, I just want some thoughts on this ... since it's becoming increasingly harder and harder to meet new people since I NEVER have any free time anymore to meet new people ...

breeze · #2 Postby **breeze** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 7:33 pm

I never did that. I guess I was just always sure that I'D be
the one to get matched up with "Chainsaw Charlie".... :o

rainstorm · #3 Postby **rainstorm** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 9:40 pm

i think it is a good idea. just be honest though. dont expect tp meet britney spears, though i have a very hot friend who met someone through a personal ad.

#4 Postby **wx247** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 9:50 pm

Storms... personal ads are a great way to meet people and work. However, there are some crazies lurking out there like "Chainsaw Charlie"

that you have to be aware of. Make sure you get to know someone really well before you meet them (if it advances that far).

#5 Postby **coriolis** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 10:21 pm

chainsaw charlene?

JetMaxx · #6 Postby **JetMaxx** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 12:13 am

I've never really gotten into that....although being 40+ and single, plenty of ad's for singles clubs come in the mail and email...

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it...from what I've been told, my dad and mom met in a similar fashion (dad and her brother were in basic training together in 1952; several years after the war...mom saw dad's personal ad, her brother told her he knew Bill, and he was a real nice guy)...but it's just not my style.

I'm to the point of my life if I never meet the right lady, it's not going to kill me. If the Lord leads me to someone...great; but either way, it's not a priority, and something I honestly don't dwell on that much.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide Mike!

Perry

Colin · #7 Postby **Colin** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 1:34 pm

Sounds like a pretty good idea to me... but you can't expect something to happen overnight, hence you need to be patient. It's your decision, but right now I'd say go for it!

Stormsfury · #8 Postby **Stormsfury** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:32 pm

How ironic is this? A young woman I have seen on the personal ads (and I checked out her website last year or a couple of years ago) ... came into the James Island Post Office today, and I thought I had recognized her and in fact, it was who I thought it was ... She lived in Beaufort and recently moved to James Island ... and even more strange is that I wanted to meet her when I first came across her ad ... and even more strange that when I saw her ad recently that she had moved to James Island, I was wandering if she'd ever come in to mail something ... She did today (3 packages)

Though I was working, we did talk a couple of minutes, but unfortunately I didn't get a chance to ask anything more on a personal level ... but maybe the paths will cross again ... I did admit a couple of things to her and again, we did talk a little ...

ColdFront77 · #9 Postby **ColdFront77** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:40 pm

It has always been said that you should watch out who you meet online, this makes even more sense when finding a relationship through online services. I can only give my opinions on the way I am and the way things (people in my family) say things. Makes sense, really.

Guest · #10 Postby **Guest** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:10 pm

I have a few friends that have meet their current boyfriend/girlfriend on the internet. As far as I know, they just hit up different chat rooms and talked to people until they made a connection. Have you tried going into the romance chat rooms? I'd at least give it a try before I shelled out the cash. Good luck!

Guest · #11 Postby **Guest** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:18 pm

Stormsfury - talk to furry - she meet her hubby online and is happily married. I think its all in your expectations and what you want.

I think you have a level-head on your shoulders and know common-sense. I would say go for it - as I used to say - the worse they can say in NO. But more often they might say Yes.

Keep us updated.
Patricia

chadtm80 · #12 Postby **chadtm80** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:20 pm

Remember... "You miss 100% of the shots you dont take"

#13 Postby **wx247** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:28 pm

mrschad wrote:I have a few friends that have meet their current boyfriend/girlfriend on the internet. As far as I know, they just hit up different chat rooms and talked to people until they made a connection. Have you tried going into the romance chat rooms? I'd at least give it a try before I shelled out the cash. Good luck!

So true! Yahoo has some good ones. I have made a few friends in there... even though I wasn't looking because I had Darla. That is free too!

weatherlover427 · #14 Postby **weatherlover427** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 10:25 pm

I don't think these are a good idea because you never know if the person on the other end of the monitor is a 65 year old member of the opposite gender or someone of your age who is a child molester. :o You have to be very careful these days.

Stormsfury · #15 Postby **Stormsfury** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 10:41 pm

I have to agree with you, Joshua, on not getting what you bargained for (so to speak), but at the same time, based on what I've seen here and people I've talked to today, you could meet someone in person and that person not be who you'd thought they would be ...

Needless to say, it's one difficult gamble such as life is...

#16 Postby **azskyman** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 10:55 pm

We have several friends who met, and married, as a result of online relationships.

Obviously, it is easier to find out about someone's interests online since you can seek out certain interest groups before you ever get started. After that...the evolution is that you learn more about that person over time...and friendships can evolve...as we know very well here.

Beyond that, however, requires a whole new set of rules and disciplines that only those who want to seek out will follow.

Based on the success/failure rate of traditional relationships, I don't see where developing an online relationship first, followed by more traditional meet-your-friend dating could be any less successful.

As a matter of fact, I would guess there are studies going on right now somewhere that are checking to see if learning about a person from the inside out rather than outside in...has a better relationship success rate.

Hard part of course is the integrity of the people on both ends of the keyboards. You can live a lie easier behind your computer monitor than you can in person.

But I wouldn't know about that.

azskyman

ColdFront77 · #17 Postby **ColdFront77** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 11:26 pm

They are apparently alright or there would of been problems and the sites would have been taken off the internet by now.

As I said, I can only go by what as been said about meeting people online and then in person.

pawlee · #18 Postby **pawlee** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 3:05 am

hmmm... pay money so that someone can stick my mug up and find me a date. sounds like prostitution minus the commission i should earn from the pimp. p

Personal Ad's Online (Like Match.com, etc) - good or bad?

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