Has anyone else noticed???

[bfez1]

I have been watching the news avidly since the President has passed away. Have you noticed during all of the ceremonies that Michael Reagan has taken a "back" seat thru it all while Nancy and her two children take center stage? It breaks my heart---after all, he is Ronald Reagan's son, too.

[Skywatch_NC]

I have been watching the news avidly since the President has passed away. Have you noticed during all of the ceremonies that Michael Reagan has taken a "back" seat thru it all while Nancy and her two children take center stage? It breaks my heart---after all, he is Ronald Reagan's son, too.

Wonder why Michael doesn't just sit the other side of Patty?

[bfez1]

I have been watching the news avidly since the President has passed away. Have you noticed during all of the ceremonies that Michael Reagan has taken a "back" seat thru it all while Nancy and her two children take center stage? It breaks my heart---after all, he is Ronald Reagan's son, too.

Wonder why Michael doesn't just sit the other side of Patty?

My thoughts exactly, that's certainly where he should be.

[Lindaloo]

I have never liked Patty. She should have been standing in line with the public for the viewing. Mike should have been right there with his Mother. I saw him on Fox News and he loves his Father dearly. Ask Patty that question?

[Skywatch_NC]

I would think that something like this...for ie. a death in the family...would bring someone who's been estranged or 'distant' in the family...closer to one another.

I didn't like Patty's writing that Tell All book a few years ago.

Eric

[Wnghs2007]

Poor Micheal Regan. He is my favorite radio show host. I hope everything is ok. I know it must hurt so much that his father passed away and I feel for him.

[Lindaloo]

I didn't like Patty's writing that Tell All book a few years ago.

Eric

Exactly and from what I have heard and read she lied about everything.

[bfez1]

Michael showed respect for his Father, Patti and Ron certainly never did!!!
Does anyone remember when Ron stripped down to his drawers on SNL?

[Miss Mary]

I've noticed this too. Sad isn't it? At times like a death in the family, a family should be closer and put aside their differences. However, I've noticed that old wounds or differences are more pronunced then than at any other time. I've felt like an outsider in my husband's family for over 10 years now. At times I feel close to them, but I've given up ever feeling like the 5th sister (he has 4, all of whom are very, very close). Then his baby brother, who has been so completely spoiled his entire life, got married. Then he had a devastating stroke (that part I am so very sad about to this day). Suddenly his wife could do no wrong - she's the 5th sister now. And I'm a negative 5th, if that makes any sense. Even my own husband feels neglected in his own family! I don't want advice or sympathy, I'm just trying to say this is how it is in some families. I try my best not to let my feelings show but boy there are days I want to shove my marriage certificate and my children's birth certificates in their faces and say see here, we are members of this family too! But I know if I did that, they'd be taken back and wonder where these feelings are coming from in the first place! So there you have it. I'm sure Michael Reagan believes this is his place - in the background. I'm sure it's very ingrained by now. That's how it is in my husband's family - we know our 'places' and act accordingly.

At my husband's mother's funeral (1993), I was the one they called upon to pick up the Mass programs and they were being printed late. As I walked into church, there was a line formed to walk in already. My husband and his little brother (he didn't have his stroke yet) were on either side of their dad. He leaned upon his two sons to walk up that aisle, he was so upset. I fell way in the back with my daughter Nina, who was about 6 then. We had a sitter for Laura, 3 then. By the time I got up near where the family was sitting, I didn't know what to do! Here was my husband sitting next to his father, clearly in pew one. I couldn't sit there. So I took one several back with one of his sisters and her family. She glared at me as to say - what are ~you~ doing in our pew - and I stopped. I think I could have cried - I had no where to go! Imagine 100 people in the back watching this scene, it took me a long time to forgive her for not motioning me into her pew. Here I was standing with her niece - her flesh and blood niece! I know I'm not family but come on, I did give birth to this child. Her mother-in-law, several pews back, must have been watching, she's a Marie Barone type if there ever was one, bless her heart this time though, said to me - Mary, go out of this pew and go in up front and sit ~down~ from your husband. I did just that, looking back at his sister as if to say - I know your mother just died but you could be nice to me just the same! I ended up sitting 10 feet from my husband, just wanting to walk out of that church! In time Jim noticed where his wife and daughter ended up, Thank God, and motioned for us to scoot down. All the while I'm dragging a 6 year old, pew to pew.

Hope that gives you one example of how Michael must be feeling right now.

I think I need a good cry now, remembering that sad day. And I really only wanted to fucus on losing a very special mother-in-law, not be made to feel like I wasn't even part of the family! I'm sure she was looking down from heaven shaking her head.

Mary

[bfez1]

How sad Miss Mary---your husband is a very lucky man to have you in his life.

[Miss Mary]

Bonnie - thanks, sniff sniff. I'm okay now. All I know is I make sure my own brother's wives feel wanted in MY family. Do you know that one of Jim's sisters' husbands doesn't even call us all in-laws? He has said for years we're all out-laws. When I first joined the family, there's a joke, I swear I thought he was just trying to cause trouble. Out-laws, what's he talking about.....now I know what he's talking about. I am an out-law in Jim's family. And now we 6 out-law's all joke we're out-laws which irritates the 4 sisters no end. I really try to be a nice person, but when I see that term irks them, I joke all the more!!! LOL We've joked we should get T shirts with out-law's written on them. Maybe that would irk them all too much though.

I'll tell you what's really sad - my own husband feels this way at times too! He's actually said, and this will sound very harsh and shocking, but he's said he feels as if he has to be disabled now to get attention. I said well I feel as if I have to have a disabled husband to get attention and the kids have to have a disabled father to get noticed.

Sometimes a family can go so overboard with one sibling, they are truly blindsided to the rest of the family. I don't know what happened when his brother was born, but he was treated like a Prince/King from day one. The stroke has only made them spoil him more!

Mary

[furluvcats]

Tough situation Mary. I'm glad you are able to hold your head up high and march into any room they are in...and turn their snide remarks back on them...GOOD GIRL! Always take the high road, that's what my mom always taught me...sounds like you do too!