Why oh why ...

[Stormsfury]

does it continue to seem that it rains crap on my head?

1) Losing my father earlier this year to lung cancer.
2) Financial worries
3) Job concerns (and the fact that I just wanna resign)
4) The young lady I want to be with won't grow up and realize what she could have with me.
5) My stepbrother is in jail for a crime he didn't commit.
6) Things continue to fall wrong ... and leaves me feeling like I'm in a bottomless pit.

The last 4 days have been absolute pure hell ... I think if Tropical Storm Alex actually became a threat to Charleston, that I would have actually ended up having a better day ... if that's hard enough to believe.

I had a 20 minute screamfest with the manager today at work, and basically at the end of the fray, I basically stated, that I want out, and when I found something else thats comparable, I'm out ... resigning ... yada, yada, yada ... I just can't subject myself to having to do 7 DIFFERENT JOBS every single day, 6 days a week, 8 to 10 hours a day .. and NOT get burned out ... frustrated, and getting 3½-4 hours of sleep a night doesn't help for nothing.

IF I could take another vacation, I would ... at least ... for almost 2 weeks afterwards, I wasn't STRESSED out beyond belief ... and Lord knows that I don't want to have this stress kill me ...

*tearing out what's left of his hair out*

SF

[Miss Mary]

Mike - we're here for you! Sounds as if everything hit you today, but it's been coming for awhile? I would suggest taking a break or a mini-vacation but then before even finishing your topic, I remembered you recently visited Atlanta. When I get stressed out, I find what works for me and do it - taking my dog for a walk, reading a good book and getting lost in it, hot bath (this may not be your thing), chilling with a beer, something! I can completely relate to #4. My ex was like that, trouble was we had dated in HS for two years and got married young. What I wanted he wanted no part of. He behaved as if we weren't even married! I guess what I would tell you on that subject is change what you can (how you relate to HER) and let go of what you can't change (what she wants out of life). Now am I saying that's easy to do? No way! It's so hard to face that. I'm hoping she realizes what she may be not appreciating - you.

Hang in there! Lean on all of us if you need to.

Mary

[Stormsfury]

Mike - we're here for you! Sounds as if everything hit you today, but it's been coming for awhile? I would suggest taking a break or a mini-vacation but then before even finishing your topic, I remembered you recently visited Atlanta. When I get stressed out, I find what works for me and do it - taking my dog for a walk, reading a good book and getting lost in it, hot bath (this may not be your thing), chilling with a beer, something! I can completely relate to #4. My ex was like that, trouble was we had dated in HS for two years and got married young. What I wanted he wanted no part of. He behaved as if we weren't even married! I guess what I would tell you on that subject is change what you can (how you relate to HER) and let go of what you can't change (what she wants out of life). Now am I saying that's easy to do? No way! It's so hard to face that. I'm hoping she realizes what she may be not appreciating - you.

Hang in there! Lean on all of us if you need to.

Mary

Hey Miss Mary ... long time, no see ...

I dropped a bombshell on her tonight, and told her that I actually resigned from my position at the post office, and my last day was two weeks from now ... also, I told her (ok, I lied about these two things to her) that I was moving to Iowa to storm chase ... (this is made up also)

Anyway, I did tell her that I had 48 hours to retract the resignation to see just how she'd react ... and it got a surprising effect ... she told me that "do you know what that would do to me and Makayla if you left?" ... she values my friendship ... in fact, we're best friends, but I want more ... and I think I've proven time and time again just how good I am to her ... her family knows it ... just that she won't realize it, grow up, open her eyes, etc., etc., etc ... I don't know ... maybe a way to dodge the issues.

SF

[azsnowman]

Mike, I know how you feel, I think we ALL have days/weeks/months/YEARS like that.....I swear, everytime you turn AROUND, something ELSE happens! Just remember ONE THING Brother....God doesn't give us MORE than we can handle, it's that old saying..."Trail by fire!" And PLEASE trust me when I say, once you've passed these, what seems to be uncontrolable circumstances, it WILL get a WHOLE H*LL of a lot better! Hang in there Bro!

Dennis

Dennis

[Guest]

I echo Dennis' sentiments there! I have had weeks were I just wanted to give up with EVERYTHING. Nothing was going right. The next week was a complete turnaround! We're here for you Storms. Remember that!

[Stephanie]

I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this Mike! I truly believe that God doesn't give us more than we can handle. I hope that you are able to get a new job soon. Sometimes change on your OWN terms stimulates more positive changes down the road. I think that since you do not feel like you have ANY CONTROL over any of the situations is the most frustrating part about it. Once you are able to make a move under your own will, things will get better. Trust me!

[breeze]

Hang in there, Storm...payday's coming, brother!
You're too good of a fellow to let all of this swallow
you up like a giant tidal wave. Mary and Dennis
both have wise ideas...think about it!

And, from me - when life ain't a bowl of cherries -
screw 'em all - make cherry koolaid!

Hang in there, ok?

[azskyman]

Sometimes life's hurdles seem to come at us too fast. Sometimes too hard. Sometimes too many.
and sometimes, all of those.

As best you can, break things down into pieces...taking one challenge at a time. Don't let the forest keep you from seeing each individual tree.

Also...if you can, when you can, and in ways only YOU can, spend some of your negative energy on something positive. Call someone who'd enjoy hearing from you. Spend some time with someone who is lonely. Write an email or letter to someone who needs encouragement.

Also, this is a great time to write some music. Sometimes inspiration comes from the most difficult times.

Take the pressure off of yourself and realize we ALL have those tough times. We've all lost family, friends, known people who end up in jail...all those things. It is not unique...it just FEELS like such a burden right now.

You will make it. The worst times make us feel better about the good times still ahead.

Before this week is done...you will have something good come into your life...maybe even Alex!!!

Take care my friend.

Steve

[Skywatch_NC]

Prayers and thoughts are w/ you, Mike. ((((HUGS))))

Love you, Bro!

Eric

[abajan]

You've definately had it rough lately. It may help to know that others are also going through some tough times

Over the last 3 months:

1. My father fell and broke his hip

2. I had laser surgery on my right eye to repair a torn and partially detached retina

3. My mother was admitted to hospital where she is awaiting the seemingly inevitable amputation of her foot (actually all the way up to just below the knee) because of non-existant circulation in it.


Hang in there, man. The Law of Averages dictates that some good times are on the way!

[Windsong]

To everything there is a season. This too shall pass. hang in there. The will of God will never lead you where His grace cannot protect you.

Denise

[Miss Mary]

Sometimes life's hurdles seem to come at us too fast. Sometimes too hard. Sometimes too many.
and sometimes, all of those.

As best you can, break things down into pieces...taking one challenge at a time. Don't let the forest keep you from seeing each individual tree.

Also...if you can, when you can, and in ways only YOU can, spend some of your negative energy on something positive. Call someone who'd enjoy hearing from you. Spend some time with someone who is lonely. Write an email or letter to someone who needs encouragement.

Also, this is a great time to write some music. Sometimes inspiration comes from the most difficult times.

Take the pressure off of yourself and realize we ALL have those tough times. We've all lost family, friends, known people who end up in jail...all those things. It is not unique...it just FEELS like such a burden right now.

You will make it. The worst times make us feel better about the good times still ahead.

Before this week is done...you will have something good come into your life...maybe even Alex!!!

Take care my friend.

Steve

Steve - I was hoping you'd see Mike's thread and I just knew you'd have encouraging advice for him tonight. I almost emailed you but got sidetracked. And here you posted before I could email you......you are a rare, true friend to all of us here at Storm2K.

Mike - I've heard that too - break it down into small chunks, don't try to handle everything at once. You'll get nowhere! That's what I meant when I said change what you can and accept what you can't change (I've had to do this many times in my life).

Mary

[wx247]

I can't really add much to what all of the wonderful people before me have posted, but let me reassure you that we are here for you!!!

[azskyman]

Mary...as you sometimes learn...I face those same kinds of challenges and sometimes can't overcome them either.

But real friends are hard to come by. I feel we have some here, and they deserve all the support and encouragement we can give them.

[USAwx1]

does it continue to seem that it rains crap on my head?

1) Losing my father earlier this year to lung cancer.
2) Financial worries
3) Job concerns (and the fact that I just wanna resign)
4) The young lady I want to be with won't grow up and realize what she could have with me.
5) My stepbrother is in jail for a crime he didn't commit.
6) Things continue to fall wrong ... and leaves me feeling like I'm in a bottomless pit.

The last 4 days have been absolute pure hell ... I think if Tropical Storm Alex actually became a threat to Charleston, that I would have actually ended up having a better day ... if that's hard enough to believe.

I had a 20 minute screamfest with the manager today at work, and basically at the end of the fray, I basically stated, that I want out, and when I found something else thats comparable, I'm out ... resigning ... yada, yada, yada ... I just can't subject myself to having to do 7 DIFFERENT JOBS every single day, 6 days a week, 8 to 10 hours a day .. and NOT get burned out ... frustrated, and getting 3½-4 hours of sleep a night doesn't help for nothing.

IF I could take another vacation, I would ... at least ... for almost 2 weeks afterwards, I wasn't STRESSED out beyond belief ... and Lord knows that I don't want to have this stress kill me ...

*tearing out what's left of his hair out*

SF

life is full of these rough times, Mike. Im going through a few myself right now also--and 2004 as a year has sucked for me as well. BUT i try to look BEYOND all the bad things that have happened or are going on right now in my life and try to isolate the positive things that I have been graced with. Of course I have a daughter that lights up my dismal crappy life, A wife which I love with all my heart, and plenty of friends and family which i know will be there for me--just as I try to do my best to be there for them.

Admittedly I probably have not lived the best life. I'm able to admit that i have a problem with drinking, and I'm working to improve that--and to a degree have improved in the last two months. I have problems with my father (which aren't exactly my fault, but nonetheless, both of us could make more of an effort to end the problems we have with eachother) which extend back to my childhood; problems with My uncle (another NASTY issue)...among SEVERAL other things. My last living grandmother's health is also failing (she has had several strokes over the past 6-7 years).

Instead of dwelling on all the negative things that have happened, it's best to always think positive. it keeps you ABOVE those issues. Plus, DONT LET LIFE'S PROBLEMS GET YOU DOWN. if you do, they will never improve.

When someone (such as your boss) just has it in for you for no reason at all, it's best that you dont lower yourself to his level--or let his actions bother you. That's what he wants, he wants you to be bothered by it. Show him that your better. We all know you can. You do it here at s2k EVERY DAY.

[USAwx1]

Also Mike, relationships sometimes don't always work out as one would like them to. There is no way to make someone feel a specific way about another person if it's just not there. Relationships are a 50-50 deal; there will not be one if the object of ones affection does not reciprocate the feelings back.

In those Situations, you just have to look elsewhere. And no matter how hard it may be to walk away, sometimes that’s the best thing for both. Everything happens for a reason, and if it's not meant to be then that’s the way it goes. There are plenty of women out there, and it’s silly to focus all of your attention on just one when they are noncommittal and seemingly preoccupied with others, instead of branching out and focusing on new prospects. What you seek to find is someone that can treat you EQUAL TO OR BETTER than what you can treat yourself. If the other person can’t do that, then it’s time to close the door on that relationship. The same as you can’t be the one always giving and getting crapped on in return for your efforts. If you stick around then you are making things worse for yourself.

Furthermore, if one can't let go of a specific person for a given reason, their chances of having a successful relationship with someone else are slim. The reason why is that there is always going to be the thought of that other person (or persons)--which is weighing on your mind, and influencing your actions in the new relationship.

Just keep your options open and DONT pass up an opportunity when it presents it's self--you never know that it might lead to. If it does not work, oh well, but you will still have the satisfaction of knowing that you at the very least gave it a shot. That’s all I'm saying.

[therock1811]

Well shoot...I can't add too much more to this...

Mike, I kinda understand what is happening to ya regarding the young woman. Heck, I was going through much the same thing in some of my friendships during the last year! I have now lost contact with most though there are a few exceptions...just remember what others have said, God will not give you more than you can handle...I agree with how skyman said this:

As best you can, break things down into pieces...taking one challenge at a time. Don't let the forest keep you from seeing each individual tree.

That helps me out a lot too...take one challenge at a time, one DAY at a time...and hey, things WILL be better next week! I just know it!

[Stormsfury]

Also Mike, relationships sometimes don't always work out as one would like them to. There is no way to make someone feel a specific way about another person if it's just not there. Relationships are a 50-50 deal; there will not be one if the object of ones affection does not reciprocate the feelings back.

In those Situations, you just have to look elsewhere. And no matter how hard it may be to walk away, sometimes that’s the best thing for both. Everything happens for a reason, and if it's not meant to be then that’s the way it goes. There are plenty of women out there, and it’s silly to focus all of your attention on just one when they are noncommittal and seemingly preoccupied with others, instead of branching out and focusing on new prospects. What you seek to find is someone that can treat you EQUAL TO OR BETTER than what you can treat yourself. If the other person can’t do that, then it’s time to close the door on that relationship. The same as you can’t be the one always giving and getting crapped on in return for your efforts. If you stick around then you are making things worse for yourself.

Furthermore, if one can't let go of a specific person for a given reason, their chances of having a successful relationship with someone else are slim. The reason why is that there is always going to be the thought of that other person (or persons)--which is weighing on your mind, and influencing your actions in the new relationship.

Just keep your options open and DONT pass up an opportunity when it presents it's self--you never know that it might lead to. If it does not work, oh well, but you will still have the satisfaction of knowing that you at the very least gave it a shot. That’s all I'm saying.

Everything just hit so fast that it sent me into overload mode ... and I can't deal with everything at once ... and am seriously just completely starting over ...

---Move away and start over in a new location ... and pretty much leave everything here behind ...

SF

[USAwx1]

That sounds like a good idea to me. Sometimes it's for the best.

[JQ Public]

Best of luck Mike! I know you are a good person just from the respectful way you treat everyone of us you will have a quick turnaround. Just stay positive