Breaking a lease

[alicia-w]

While not going to the police and just moving may sound like a viable alternative, all that really does is make someone else a victim. If you and your friend move, then he'll just target someone else. Nip it in the bud.

(The knee job comment was more sarcasm than anything else, but if someone comes up behind me, a pre-emptive strike can be considered self defense, can it not? Do I have to wait for him to assault me first? If this guy has been acting strangely for some time, there may be every reason to believe he had less than honorable intentions...)

[sunny]

Shelby and I are writing letters today not only to our complex manager, but also the regional office stating our concerns. We have been advised to document all occurrances to both offices in writing, that way if the time comes that we do feel, out of concern for our safety, we need to break our leases, we have a "trail".

Thank you all for your advice!

[alicia-w]

You might see if there's a Women's Legal Office around there. Just give them a call and see what they say about it also.

[sunny]

While not going to the police and just moving may sound like a viable alternative, all that really does is make someone else a victim. If you and your friend move, then he'll just target someone else. Nip it in the bud.

(The knee job comment was more sarcasm than anything else, but if someone comes up behind me, a pre-emptive strike can be considered self defense, can it not? Do I have to wait for him to assault me first? If this guy has been acting strangely for some time, there may be every reason to believe he had less than honorable intentions...)

I really thought he was going to push me inside my apartment. I think that's why I am now frightened - because I DIDN'T react in a defensive manner. He knows by now that Shelby and I both live alone. I've been checking my door 5 and 6 times at night the last few nights.

[weathermom]

sunny- if he is close enough for a "knee job" without your invitation, then he is close enough to deserve one. Wouldn't you rather be in court over your act of self defense, than trying to prosecute him for rape? You have to trust your instincts when it comes to creepy guys. MOVE- and do it soon! In the mean time, try to be less predictable about what time you come and go, a little less scheduled.

[SouthernWx]

I am afraid to approach him. I can't explain it - he makes me very uneasy.

Sunny, if your instincts tell you something about this guy is dangerous....listen to them. I've always lived by my instincts, and doing so has saved my life a couple times over the years.

PW

[Lindaloo]

sunny, check your lease agreement. In most states, the landlord is obligated to protect renters. The Landlord Tenant Laws are written so that owners/managers have certain obligations to do whatever is possible to provide a quiet, safe & enjoyable place for residents to live without added risk of danger. That statement is taken straight out of the law book.

[vbhoutex]

While not going to the police and just moving may sound like a viable alternative, all that really does is make someone else a victim. If you and your friend move, then he'll just target someone else. Nip it in the bud.

(The knee job comment was more sarcasm than anything else, but if someone comes up behind me, a pre-emptive strike can be considered self defense, can it not? Do I have to wait for him to assault me first? If this guy has been acting strangely for some time, there may be every reason to believe he had less than honorable intentions...)

Good point!!!!

In the mean time, try to be less predictable about what time you come and go, a little less scheduled.

GREAT ADVICE!!!! We do that at our home. Nothing has ever made it "necessary", it is just something we do and are fortunate enough to work close enough to do. Even 15 or 20 minutes difference either way from your "normal" routine can really throw a wrench into someones "plans" if they are watching you.