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#1 Postby alicia-w » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:09 am

I know there are more than a few folks here who believe strongly in the power of prayer. You helped me once last year and I'm asking once more.

Things have been too hectic here for me lately. My husband has been on the road constantly since the beginning of the year and it's not likely to lessen any time soon.

His truck died at the Pensacola Airport on Tuesday. I've finally got that taken care of, well sorta anyway.

Now our terminally ill 86 year old uncle, who we recently moved to Beaumont (from Mobile) has stopped communicating and is no longer eating or drinking. I know I should be grateful that he will be out of pain soon and into a better place. His last words were to the hospice nurse that he could see his wife and family. This is hard.

On top of ALL that, my husband's cousin who has been taking care of the unc's affairs and is the only blood relative, also the executor, had a heart attack yesterday and is in ICU in Houston.

Then my stove died.

WHEN WILL IT STOP?

Seems that we are always taking care of somebody else and there's no time for us anymore. Is that selfish?

Please offer an extra word for us in your prayers, if you're so inclined. Every little bit can help. I offer my most humble thanks in advance.
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#2 Postby cycloneye » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:11 am

My prayers go you you and your family and I hope that all gets good very soon.
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#3 Postby Miss Mary » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:15 am

Oh my alicia - you do have a lot to handle right now. I would suggest doing what you absolutely have to. And not worrying about the rest. There have been stressful times in our family, when my father was dying, when my husband's brother had a massive stroke at age 38. There were days when it just didn't seem as if we take on anymore than we were at the time (add my own cancer in there over 5 years ago). Somehow time moves on and the stressful times ease up. It's just difficult to handle at times especially when you just want one normal day. On that I can relate. Just vent with us and of course we'll all add you and your family to our prayer list! I'm sure you've been added to a dozen already.

Hugs going out to you too.

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#4 Postby sunny » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:19 am

Alicia - I believe in the power of prayer, and my prayers are most certainly with you and your family right now.

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#5 Postby alicia-w » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:23 am

thanks.
i'm prone to mood swings (my husband calls it something else...) and it appears that the height and depth are further apart as well as the frequency of those becoming closer. So i'm not getting too many chances to take breathers and try to recover. Seems like I dont have any opportunity to even take a deep breath. I just feel so sad. And all the things I've tried to do in the past to get out of that funk arent working.

The other half just called and said he is delaying his next trip a week since we most likely will be dealing with a funeral and all the logistics that accompany it. And it's not even 9am yet!

It's gotta be noon somewhere. I think I need a martini or something.
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#6 Postby chadtm80 » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:25 am

We are all praying for you alicia.. Just stay strong.. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk or if you need ANYTHING
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#7 Postby Lindaloo » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:53 am

You are in my prayers alicia. Just remember, God never gives us more than we can handle. :D
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#8 Postby alicia-w » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:53 am

i'm beginning to think that's not the case.....
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#9 Postby chadtm80 » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:55 am

alicia-w wrote:i'm beginning to think that's not the case.....

Got to stay positive alicia.. You WILL get through this
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#10 Postby Lindaloo » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:56 am

I know it seems that way. Look at the bright side, things can't get worse which means it has to get better. ((HUGS))
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#11 Postby alicia-w » Thu Jan 20, 2005 9:57 am

i know for sure i will be buying stock in L'Oreal (for haircolor) and whatever company makes Bombay Sapphire gin, because I may be contributing greatly to their coffers in the days and months to come...

:oops:
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#12 Postby Miss Mary » Thu Jan 20, 2005 10:00 am

Alicia - here's a mind trick I play, started during my first L & D, then my pre/post-surgery days and other stressful times.

I project forward. Thinking in one week, this will be over or in the past. In one month or one year from now I'll look back on this and think.....you insert what you want here.

Now it didn't take away childbirth pain, my trusty epidurals did that, LOL, but I could think ahead instead of in the moment sometimes. And it truly did help. Just a thought....

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#13 Postby vbhoutex » Thu Jan 20, 2005 10:00 am

Alicia, Prayers are flying from West Houston as I type. Pm me and let me know if there is anything I can assist you with since I am in Houston. The least I can do is offer my assistance since you have done the same for me and my Mom.

Truly, God never gives us more than we can bear!!! My own family is living proof of that.
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#14 Postby alicia-w » Fri Jan 21, 2005 7:38 am

Just to update y'all:

the Uncle passed away early this morning. we're flying him home to Mobile tomorrow. Funeral probably on Tuesday. The situation is grim for the cousin. They found an aneurysm and cannot operate because she has developed pneumonia.

When it rains it pours.

Probably wont be on here for a few days for obvious reasons.

If you have a spare moment, put in a good word for us. Thank you
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#15 Postby Pburgh » Fri Jan 21, 2005 9:15 am

Alice, I'm so sorry to here about your uncle. You have my deepest sympathy.

Believe me, I know the Type A person that you are. Please, please don't let these problems overwhelm you. Just take one thing at a time and don't feel that you have to handle everything. Let others help you thru this.

I'm sending prayers for you and your family. If you need to talk PM me. Big ((Hugs)) to you my friend.

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#16 Postby therock1811 » Fri Jan 21, 2005 9:31 am

You've got my full support on this. Prayers rising from Northern KY today for ya. When it rains it does pour, that's true. But this will pass. Hold on for dear life. You're gonna get through this.
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#17 Postby GulfBreezer » Fri Jan 21, 2005 10:50 am

I have to echo what Mary has said.........this too shall pass. While it seems that your world is caving in on top of you, this is a temporary situation. The most important things for you to remember right now are:

Get enough rest, you are no good to anyone unless you take care of yourself.

Take vitamins, you are probably not eating right and need them !!

Talk, talk, talk! Pastor, friend, family member, total stranger, it doesn't matter. Do not keep your feelings bottled up.

Cry when you need too! Don't try to be the rock! Even the strongest of people need to cry. It is a cleansing release.

Talk to God all the time. Stop and say "Ok, what do I do next?" Listen for the answer and pursue it. One at a time!

Find something that makes you smile and DO IT!! A walk on the beach, the nursery in your local hospital (I have done that when I feel down and it always lifts me up) Just something that takes you out of yourself.

PM me if you just need to talk and I will give you my phone #............keep your chin up girl and know that you are in my prayers!!

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#18 Postby therock1811 » Fri Jan 21, 2005 11:31 am

GulfBreezer wrote:Don't try to be the rock!


Yeah don't try to be me! LOL (Yes Sandi I knew what you meant)

Seriously, yes, let it all out. It's never good to keep things bottled up. I know...I've tried to do that. And you just can't. It will rip you to shreds. If you need to talk, PM me, and I'll second Sandi's offer, I'll give you my cell number, you call. That's all I can really say. Things will get better, just hang in there!
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#19 Postby isobar » Fri Jan 21, 2005 12:27 pm

Very good advice given so far.
Alicia, We are all behind you 100% and praying for you and your family. Check in when you can.
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#20 Postby Rainband » Fri Jan 21, 2005 1:12 pm

Alicia. Things will get better soon. You will see. The Lord never gives us more than we can handle. God Bless (((HUGS)))
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