"Sittin' round the Pot Belly Stove!"

Skywatch_NC · #361 Postby **Skywatch_NC** » Thu Mar 17, 2005 7:10 pm

We love you, Jeremy!! (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

God Bless You, Brother!

Eric

therock1811 · #362 Postby **therock1811** » Thu Mar 17, 2005 10:33 pm

Thanks Eric and Mary. I just can't believe it.

She did call after that post, and I was nice about it, but I'm still ticked. I didn't buy her excuse that she was too tired to call...I gave her 2 and a half days...she shoulda called sooner. Even if she had to call at two in the morning.

#363 Postby **pojo** » Mon Mar 21, 2005 1:14 pm

well, I made it home safely in the wee hours of the morning on Sunday. The jet lag is kicking my butt right now... I have to deprive my body of 7 hours in order to get back on the right time zone schedule. My friend came and got me late morning on Sunday and I just HAD to spend the whole day with her (no thank you.) I would have rather done laundry... since my dirty clothes pile is Huge! I haven't even had time to unpack.. that is what I WAS going to do on Sunday... unpack and catch up on homework... but NO... that didn't happen urgh! (she one person that WILL NOT stop talking or leave me alone!) :roll:

I won't have time until Tuesday night to do it!

I found out on Sat night that I am still on Stand-by for deployment. Yes, I'm still on the alternate list... and I have to have my cell phone with me 24/7 starting April 3. Oh joy.

Jeremy... hold on there buddy.. things will pan out pretty soon... they may seem a little crazy right now, but once they settle down and you 2 get some needed space, things will be ok.. Sometimes it is better to be away from each other for some time. (i.e. my friend story from Sunday)

therock1811 · #364 Postby **therock1811** » Mon Mar 21, 2005 5:42 pm

It's not just crazy but upsetting. With all of the relationship problems I've had in the past, I have had a better time dealing with each of them. Not much improvement mind you, but some. Very few are aware of this but in early February I reached a low point in my life. Things were down the tubes both in my personal life and as a student and I was so stressed. I even contemplated suicide one night that first week of February. I didn't do it, because I figured out there had to be a reason why this was all happening. And the last week has made clear that my time needn't be spent on a dead-end relationship which is pretty much what the relationship between me and Nathalie had become. Luckily I have a strong support system and with that, how can I go wrong? With that, I'd just like to thank you all for getting me through this past week and so many bad weeks before that. I really do appreciate it.

furluvcats · #365 Postby **furluvcats** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 2:16 pm

Well, its about time for "The Front Porch"...isn't it? Spring has sprung....lol. Its rainy and cold today, and I'm afraid so cal is going to breakthat rain record from the 1800's by the end of the week...

As you know, we've been dealing with the school on the threatening note my daughter recieved...its an emotional ride, trying to get done what is right in a school system with their heads in the sand...

The Terri Schiavo case is heavy on my heart as well...I hope that if I am ever unfortunate enough to be in her place, that I am fed and nourished if my mother is alive and wanting to keep me alive, reguardless of what my husbands wishes would be. I be;ieve that a parent should have the final word...I am saddened by what is happening with her...I often rule with my heart, I know, but I am just devestated that it appears she will starve to death.

Our cruise is fastly approaching...wooohooo I am soooo looking forward to the one on one time with my husband! I am planning on a very romantic 8 days at sea with him...with time left for adventure as well!

We are so 100% of the time involved with our kids and their lives and a little break will be healthy for us all! The kids are excited to fly to FL to visit with my grandmother, her husband, my mother, my aunt, and a zillion other family members....its been hard living so far away from our family that was an everyday part of our lives for so long...should be a healthy spring break in my camp! Its my grandmothers 73rd birthday as well, so a ton of family is flying in from all around the country...everyone but me, it appears....

oops!

Have a fantastic Spring Break everyone...talk to ya soon!

isobar · #366 Postby **isobar** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 2:40 pm

Welcome home, pojo Shannon!!! What did you get to see and do in Germany?

Jeremy, We're here for you, bud! (((HUGS)))

Furry Shannon, I just read your other thread about your daughter's note. I'm so shocked and saddened for you all. All threats should be taken seriously these days. God bless!

#367 Postby **pojo** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:55 pm

isobar wrote:Welcome home, pojo Shannon!!! What did you get to see and do in Germany?

Thank you... glad to be home. Celebrated my 23rd on 3/11 had a little fun that night! King Ludwigs Castles on Saturday 3/12... down in the Bavarian Alps, very pretty! Sunday 3/13 was the Rhine River Cruise and Wine tasting. 3/17 we went to the Paradox and had our end of tour party in Ramstein (city)... the first week drove down to Zweibrucken with a couple of people to see the old Zweibrucken Air Base... its turned into a commericalized area now. Otherwise was 4 day work week of 12 hours days.... built pallets, in processed cargo trucks... all that fun stuff that goes with warehouses. I should able to pick up my pictures today... I can't wait.

therock1811 · #368 Postby **therock1811** » Wed Mar 23, 2005 11:31 pm

I just wrote this entry in my diary a couple minutes ago, and want to share it with you all. It doesn't apply to anyone here at storm2k...just my observation about the crappy way things are continuing to go.

I have had it.

Why? Because first I had to break off one friendship because it wouldn't work out, despite the fact we could actually see each other pretty much whenever. NOW I may have to do the same because it's not working BECAUSE time is an issue for the other person. Am I wrong? Or is it impossible to carry on any sort of friendship if you can't make time for your friends. It seems to me that people don't give a damn about me, or at least enough to actually ask me to go do stuff with them as opposed to acting like I'm not even there (most everyone at the BSU is in this particular category)! I cannot do it anymore. I cannot just sit there and let someone's actions towards me rip me apart because they don't even care enough to notice I'm there. I'm through being other people's doormat and being nothing to anyone except people I can't physically see and who aren't part of my actual family.

furluvcats · #369 Postby **furluvcats** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 12:11 pm

Jeremy...keep your chin up buddy...inner strength will get you through all the bad times...have confidence in yourself, you know you're a wonderful friend, family member, member of society, so don't sweat it...always believe in yourself...
((((HUGS)))

Shannon...happy belated 23rd birthday! What a great way to spend your birthday week....I hope you'll share some of those pics when you get them all back!

Counting down the days until the cruise...tomorrow will feel like the start of vacation bc I am keeping the kids home from school and we are marching in a citywide cross carry on Friday, followed by a worship service in the park...so, no more school for them until April 12th...yippee

Miss Mary · #370 Postby **Miss Mary** » Fri Mar 25, 2005 11:00 am

Jeremy - your troubles really tug at my heart as well. Hang in there and please lean on all of us to help you thru this rough time. I wish I could say next week will be easier for you but seeing her everyday is going to be hard. In time it will get easier, but it just takes lots of time.

Shannon - Chloe's school break sure came at a good time didn't it? Time for everyone to calm down, get some distance and hopefully this assembly will really open everyone's eyes. I commend you for following thru on it.

Mary

therock1811 · #371 Postby **therock1811** » Fri Mar 25, 2005 12:16 pm

Well I was kinda upset about this whole thing. But I'm serious about this: I don't really think a friendship can really work if the two sides can't seem to get together except haphazardly. I don't know if this is making any sense, so I'll explain the situation I'm finding myself in right now.

Most of you all remember Elizabeth, whom I was having some issues with a month or so ago. Well it's not really the same thing happening. But, we (that is, she and I) never see each other except by extreme coincidence like being in the same place at a time when we least expect it. Well recently she started showing up at my Wednesday night bible study group. That's great right? Except: I never know if she's gonna be there one week but not the next. Like last week she wasn't there, and this week she was. You see where I'm going with this. But in about 2 months, she's going to disappear from my life entirely for 9 weeks to do an internship at a church over here in Campbell County while I will be stuck in Florence except for a week in Missouri (which I'm looking forward to, don't get the impression I'm not). I want to have a strong friendship going so that by the time she has to leave because she has to live here. Because I don't usually have much money to begin with, and because she probably won't have time to visit with me, and even if I did manage to get out here often, I STILL wouldn't know where to find her, I feel we need to build things to a point where when she leaves, it won't bother me all that much and I can actually enjoy my summer until we can establish contact again. Let me just clarify for anyone who might begin to think this about me for even a split second...I am NOT a control freak. She has her life, I have mine...but I need friends that I can actually hang out with physically. I don't intend offense...but that's what I'm facing right now.

Miss Mary · #372 Postby **Miss Mary** » Fri Mar 25, 2005 12:49 pm

Jeremy,

Here is what I've discovered in my old age - some people just want casual relationships and ones that they can call the shots with. With those people, I just greet them in a friendly way but I don't try to get close to them. Example - next door neighbor/wife is this way. I call her an on-again/off-again type 'friend'. I use the word friend with loosely. She's just carried her HS cliquey ways into adulthood. Back when our street was newly established and we were all raising young children, I recognized this trait in her. One day she'd talk to me, for an hour, the next have nothing to do with me. Not even saying hello mere feet away as were both doing yardwork! That is when I decided to still be nice/friendly but write her off as a potential friend. Next her daughter was one year older than Nina. Nina tried and tried to become close friends with her daughter - that would have been very nice, back and forth sleepovers, ready made friend smack dab next door. Guess what? The daughter behaved just like the mom. But Nina was so young then she didn't see all that I did. So I had to dry many, many tears. By the time both girls got to Middle School it was apparent - you go your way, I'll go mine. One day this girl told Nina - I'm an 8th Grader now, I don't talk to Sevies anymore (what 7th Graders are called in Anderson). So there ya have it. Oh this girl is a freshman in college at UC and is SO NICE now. But it took many years for this to happen.

So what I'm trying to say is I find it best to take people at what they are, not what I'd like them to be. I didn't learn this valuable lesson until my mid 30s I'd say. Maybe even into my 40s. I like you tend to trust people I shouldn't (uh mmmm, Mayberry/Phyllis is my best example of my last friendship mistake), not that they're bad people. They just look at friendships a completely different way than I do.

I hope that helped some. In your case, I'd prepare myself for her to show up at your Bible group every week. Then if she doesn't come, you just breath a huge sigh of relief!

Mary

therock1811 · #373 Postby **therock1811** » Fri Mar 25, 2005 5:18 pm

I may as well. Actually, I HOPE she shows up this coming Wednesday! I got something to tell her.

OK that may have sounded a bit harsh, but I am hoping she'll show up so I can talk to her about something I've wanted to articulate to her for the past 4 weeks.

therock1811 · #374 Postby **therock1811** » Sun Mar 27, 2005 8:35 am

Just when I'd started to let my ex-girlfriend fade from my life...her mom had to e-mail me. A perfectly innocent e-mail (to wish me a Happy Easter), but one that will weigh heavily on my heart and mind today and probably for a couple days.

So much for making progress. You think she knew that I had ended the friendship a couple weeks ago? I don't. Either way, hope everyone is having a happier Easter than I probably will.

Skywatch_NC · #375 Postby **Skywatch_NC** » Sun Mar 27, 2005 10:25 am

therock1811 wrote:Just when I'd started to let my ex-girlfriend fade from my life...her mom had to e-mail me. A perfectly innocent e-mail (to wish me a Happy Easter), but one that will weigh heavily on my heart and mind today and probably for a couple days. So much for making progress. You think she knew that I had ended the friendship a couple weeks ago? I don't. Either way, hope everyone is having a happier Easter than I probably will.

Jeremy,

I pray for the Lord's comfort, peace and strength for you, Brother. ((((HUG))))

Enjoy your family gathering at your grandparents.

God Bless You,

Eric

therock1811 · #376 Postby **therock1811** » Sun Mar 27, 2005 10:45 am

Thanks Eric. I just got home from church a few minutes ago(no Sunday school today, 3 services this morning). The gathering this afternoon is VERY much in doubt. My stepdad has been sick the last few days and missed Easter services (which he never does). OTOH, I don't think he's sick enough to not do anything.

Skywatch_NC · #377 Postby **Skywatch_NC** » Sun Mar 27, 2005 10:55 am

therock1811 wrote:Thanks Eric. I just got home from church a few minutes ago(no Sunday school today, 3 services this morning). The gathering this afternoon is VERY much in doubt. My stepdad has been sick the last few days and missed Easter services (which he never does). OTOH, I don't think he's sick enough to not do anything.

You're quite welcome

My folks and I had planned to go this morning like we do each Sunday...but Dad keeps getting recurring (just started re-flaring yesterday) gout in one of this big toes...and the med he's taking for it backfires on him resulting in frequent trips to the bathroom. :eek:

Mom and I seldom do any driving in Raleigh...unlike Roanoke Rapids where driving is MUCH more of a cinch. :wink:

There's no evening service being it's Easter...but we still feel guilty for not being able to go this morning despite the circumstances. It's really bad when a med supposed to be helpful has undesired side effects. Prayers and thoughts sent your stepdad's way.

#378 Postby **pojo** » Tue Mar 29, 2005 4:03 pm

Sadly, deployment day is getting closer... this Sunday. I'm still in the anticipation stage, waiting for that lovely phone call. Fingernails are slowly being bit off one...by...one. One per day. It is hard even thinking about the topic. I love this Air Force policy: hurry up and wait. :roll:

It happens for a reason though.

Just found out today that one of our JUST RETIRED Chief Master Sargeants passed away on Easter. RIP Chief Pfeffer. He didn't even get a chance to enjoy his retirement. We all will miss him.

I don't know how much I'll be online in the next couple of days...way to much homework to complete.

#379 Postby **Aslkahuna** » Tue Mar 29, 2005 7:08 pm

That often happens to people who retire. It is said that the first five years of retirement are the most dangerous and if you make it past them then you have a good chance of making it to a ripe old age-I'll be celebrating 10 years of retired life come September 30th.

Steve

#380 Postby **vbhoutex** » Tue Mar 29, 2005 11:10 pm

The question is-are you ripe and old yet? :wink:

"Sittin' round the Pot Belly Stove!"

So you all know how I'm feeling right now...

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