I need to talk with ya'll about something..

Guest · #21 Postby **Guest** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 10:13 am

Trust me, John. If you really think there is some chemistry among other elements going on, by all means activate the relationship machine.

But if you do it just because "I need a girl", avoid it like a plague of locusts, red water, etc, and run away through the parted sea.

Unfortunately, right when Emily (the second to last plague) mentioned that she had a boyfriend a little over a year ago, I decided to stay in "Egypt". LOL

Josephine96 · #22 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 10:14 am

Sounds like a plan lol.. I'm not so sure what it is right now.. I'm confused..

Guest · #23 Postby **Guest** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 10:23 am

Don't do like me and knock a few years off your life by WORRYING endlessly about it. Currently, I worry a ton aboutEVERYTHING to where it begins to affect by PHYSICAL heart (BTW, I am 23).

Though it is important to consider which "fork" to take in the path of life, don't OBSESS over it.

Josephine96 · #24 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 10:26 am

a fork in the road.. a branch in the river lol sorry

cajungal · #25 Postby **cajungal** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 11:10 am

Just curious-How old are you John?

Josephine96 · #26 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:21 pm

<<<wonders the curiosity about the age..

If you must know.. I turn 23 later this year

cswitwer · #27 Postby **cswitwer** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:39 pm

I'd like to weigh in again and say this-- I spent years trying to figure out what I wanted, who I wanted, whether I wanted... then I sort of accepted being alone, then I looked around again... back and forth for years. The day I met my partner, I knew it instantly. By the end of the three day weekend (business trip) I knew she was the one. I just had to convince her! But when it happened, if I had been scared by the fact we lived in different states, or scared about trying to be in a relationship again, I might've passed her up. She's the best thing that ever happened to me! So if you ever feel like you "know" something, grab it! I did, and I"ll never regret it!

#28 Postby **alicia-w** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:44 pm

a broken heart can mae you cautious, but dont let it make you afraid for the rest of your life. close your eyes, take a deep breath, and just do it.

one of my sons turns 23 on the 19th and he's been devastated by girls a couple of times. he doesnt seem to have a problem getting back on the bike though.

good luck.

wxcrazytwo · #29 Postby **wxcrazytwo** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:50 pm

I always say, whenever there is a green leaf, it will always turn brown. How old are you anyway, if you don't mind me asking? These are some serious personal issues only you can answer my friend. When it is time you will know it.

Josephine96 · #30 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:51 pm

For the 3rd time.. I am almost 23 lol

wxcrazytwo · #31 Postby **wxcrazytwo** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:52 pm

Josephine96 wrote:<<<wonders the curiosity about the age..

If you must know.. I turn 23 later this year

Dude, your either green or you need to get over the last two. At 23, you should know what is up. I don't mean to sound mean, but at 23, you go to go get it.

Josephine96 · #32 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:54 pm

What the h e double hockey sticks do you mean I am green or whatever you said..? lol..

Josephine96 · #33 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 5:57 pm

Most people btw know what happened to me.. they are sorry for what happened..

There are some that think I should try to get back into the dating cycle.. But others have said I should take my time..

I personally think I'll take my time.. and like I said... If my feelings for this girl at work persist.. I'll act.. But if they fade {as if they did with the last 2 I had interest in before I even asked 1 of them out} that's ok..

Right now.. I am probably in the stage of a crush or developing a crush on this girl.. I'm not in love with her lol or building up courage yet to ask her out.. that's why I wanna see if my feelings persist or not..

MomH · #34 Postby **MomH** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 6:02 pm

Or.. Should I just be friends with the girls I work with.. {I know they all love me anyway lol}.. or.. should I just take a chance if my feelings get any stronger.. and maybe treat this girl to lunch or dinner or something lol.. I am confused

..

Ok - advice from an old lady. One of your problems ( and most young people, imho) is that you separate friend and relationships. The best relationships are those which develop from a good friendship. Taking a girl to lunch should not be a life altering decision. It should be a time to get to know each other better in a setting away from work. Take your time - no one says you have to "go for the gold" immediately. Get to know each other. Then -- and this is advice I gave my three daughters and all their friends -- pick out the three things you like least about this person -- they can be anything from drinking to much to biting of fingernails. Multiply these things by 10 and think hard using this premise--if they got ten time worse could I live with it. I guarantee at least two of those three things will seem 10 times worse in a committed relationship. And -- to save your sanity -- don't think you can change the things you don't like. It ain't gonna happen! Good luck and quit fretting so.

Josephine96 · #35 Postby **Josephine96** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 7:25 pm

Thank you for the advice all :wink:

Guest · #36 Postby **Guest** » Mon Jun 06, 2005 9:24 pm

Josephine96 wrote:
There are some that think I should try to get back into the dating cycle..

It is not what it is all cracked up to be, in my opinion.

cajungal · #37 Postby **cajungal** » Tue Jun 07, 2005 9:31 am

I had to admit I first thought you were a girl. Because of the user name Josephine. Until everyone else started calling you John. And I thought you were a lot older. You sound very mature on these boards. I thought you were in your 30's-40's. No offense. I hope you take it as a compliment. Don't worry about it. The right girl will come along when you at least expect it. You seem like a very nice guy.

#38 Postby **alicia-w** » Tue Jun 07, 2005 10:26 am

Have things changed so much since I quit dating? Do you have to be in love with someone to go out with them? If so, that's probably where I messed up a long time ago!!!

:lol:

#39 Postby **drudd1** » Tue Jun 07, 2005 10:49 am

Have things changed so much since I quit dating? Do you have to be in love with someone to go out with them? If so, that's probably where I messed up a long time ago!!!

LOL, I was thinking the same thing. I thought dating was supposed to be a chance to get to know someone. Most fizzle, some don't, but in the end you found out if you wanted to see this person again. If I had waited until I was smitten with someone, I sure wouldn't have went on many dates.

wxcrazytwo wrote:

Dude, your either green or you need to get over the last two. At 23, you should know what is up.

Ahhh, if that were only the case. The only difference between a 23 year old and a 73 year old is that the 23 year old usually thinks they know it all, and don't have a clue yet. A 73 year old knows they have a lot to learn, and have resigned themselves to the fact that they will never figure it all out.

#40 Postby **coriolis** » Tue Jun 07, 2005 11:05 am

Josephine, sorry for jumping into this thread late. My advice re:women. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

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