Ex wives and husbands

[azsnowman]

I've made a LOT of mistakes in my life but THIS was the BIGGEST....being married to my EX wife

The story begins:

My daughter was here back in March of this year for spring break. My wife and daughter got into a VERBAL arguement, my ex wife found out, she then TRIED to file a report of "Child Abuse" against my wife through my OWN boss here at work and I just found out about this day before yesterday!

My boss dismissed the report due to my daughter CONFESSING she was MADE to LIE by my EX WIFE And now....Michelle is going after my ex with BOTH barrels. She has hired an attorney and is filing today, 4 May 07, NUMEROUS charges against my EX!!

Anyone else have problems with their EX's like this?

[Janice]

I have had problems, but not to that extreme. Sorry you have to go through it. It will only distance your daughter from her mother in the future and your ex will be the big loser. Just hang in there. Kids are smart.

[Pburgh]

You GO Michelle!!!!! I almost feel sorry for your ex-wife now. I wouldn't want Michelle after me!!!!! That's one EX that's gonna be real real miserable. I guess she didn't know who she was messin with.

[alicia-w]

i have two ex-husbands who KNOW better. they wouldnt dare!

[Janice]

Funny, but I get along much better now then when I was married to my ex. We are cordial with no problems. I can even be around his new wife with no problems at all. Maybe I grew up a bit. Just because two people cannot get along together does not mean that one is bad. It just means the two were not meant to be together, just my opinion.

[JenBayles]

No problems with my ex - I married him again in 2005!

[Tstormwatcher]

My wife's ex is and ahole if you get my drift.

[Pburgh]

I've been divorced many, many years. Having two daughters together, my Ex and I decided we would stay friends for the kids. He and my fiance became best friends too. When the girls come to my home to visit, he's always here. We have a great time. He even comes to my Mom's home for family functions. He's a great father, we just couldn't live together. He's so lazy you kidda have to walk around him. I'm a Type A personality and he's a Type Z. lol He drives me nuts but he's a good person.

[Janice]

My sister and her first husband are the same way. They had two kids together. They attend birthdays, weddings, funerals, etc. together and get along great. My sis and his new wife have become good friends. I guess it just takes growing up.

[Pburgh]

I've always said that in this life, I am here to learn tolerance. I'm still learning. It's not easy. lol

It did work for the kids. I'm glad for your sister too!!

[chadtm80]

Dennis as you know my Ex Wife has put me and my son through all kins of horse you know what..

Best advice imo is to just drop the whole thing.. She is just going to put you two through more stress and drama and thats just what she wants.. I say just live your life happily with your new wife and forget about the *******

[Janice]

Chad is so right. Don't get down on her level. If you do, she has won. Kill her with kindness, ignore her. Your daughter will catch on fast. Kids are smart.

[MomH]

I'm one of the lucky ones. My ex and I are friends. We were married for almost 30 years and had 3 daughters. We can't live together and seldom agree on anything but we are always there for each other. He spent 6 weeks in my hometown taking care of grandkids while I was in the hospital. Even spent a couple of late nights sitting with me in ICU. In 17 years he has never missed a child care or alimony payment. Best of all, he has been with the girls and I for every important holiday or event in the last 17 years. For my graduation from Jr. college, he gave me a trip to Hawaii to see my daughter and grandsons. Do I still love him? Yes! Am I "in love" with him? No. Big difference you know.

[Pburgh]

MomH, I know exactly where you are. ((HUGS))

[azsnowman]

Dennis as you know my Ex Wife has put me and my son through all kins of horse you know what..

Best advice imo is to just drop the whole thing.. She is just going to put you two through more stress and drama and thats just what she wants.. I say just live your life happily with your new wife and forget about the *******

She did back off after a short cooling off period, she did however have our attorney write the biatch a letter of "Cease and decist" (I think that's how it's spelled!)

Those were some SERIOUS allegations the woman made (and I use the term woman loosely)....had I not worked at the PD and my supervisor didn't know Michelle, she would have wound up in jail having to fight those false allegations!

[azsnowman]

And yes....I KNOW she'll blow her cookies when the biatch gets the letter from the attorney on Monday "Oh WELL!"

[azsnowman]

You see...I'm probably the one to blame. This *ahem* woman, has been harrassening me for over 15 years (since the divorce) and REALLY been a biatch since Michelle and I got married 10 years ago. My ex is SO friggin' JEALOUS of us...we are VERY successful, I went to college at the age of 46 and GRADUATED, we are VERY comfortable financially, we want for nothing!!

I ignored her threats for all those years and now it ALMOST cost me EVERYTHING Michelle and I have worked for!

So am I wrong for persueing this matter? NO but H*LL NO in my opinion...I am SICK of her trying to ruin my life after ALL these years!

OH...and another thing about the *AHEM* woman, she remarried a few months ago and GUESS where her scumbag husband is? SHE married this jerk WHILE he's in PRISON!!! YES folks, he's in PRISON for ARSON!!! The ONLY saving grace to this BS is that my daughter will be 18 yrs. old when this idiot gets out of prison and she will be GONE when he gets out!

[Kim_in_MN]

Sorry to hear about your problems, Dennis.

While my ex and I don't always see eye to eye about everything, we do basically get along and try to accommodate each others' schedules as far as visitation (I do most of the accommodating, as he is a truck driver lol). After all of the turmoil of the divorce was over, I made the decision to bite my tongue when he got on my nerves, unless it was an important issue about the kids. I get along fine with his new wife (she even asked me once after a fight with him I stayed married to him ROFL) and even have a picture of their daughter on the wall with my kids/family pictures; I figure it is my kids home too and she is their sister, so why not? I love the faces when someone asks me who the picture is of and I explain it is my ex-husbands daughter with his second wife <g>.

Kim

[Stephanie]

I'm sorry to hear about that - especially for your daughter. I wouldn't want to mess with Michelle either!

I was divorced officially in 1992 - I left him in 1990. I haven't spoken to him since we sold the house when we first separated. I hear he's on #4 now...I was #2. I was young and naive.

[Miss Mary]

My parents had a very unhappy marriage and consequently, a bitter divorce. My mother still talks bad about my dad and dad passed away in 1988. When my first marriage ended, I decided I didn't want to close the door on that phase of my life, in a bitter way. I let go of the bad and kept the good, in my heart. To this day, if he crosses my mind, I just say a hopeful prayer, that's he's happy. It's just not healthy being at odds with former family members! It's not worth all the heartache. I am lucky though, that my ex didn't cause me any trouble and he was pretty decent (in the end that is, not at first, moving in with a girlfriend is not decent but he apologized later for hurting me).

What I'm saying is this - what goes around comes around. You can either hurl insults back or you can take the high road. The high road isn't easy but it's the road I took.

I only wish my mom had taken it. My dad had a terrible time trying to keep the peace in our house. I don't know how he did it either. But dad - you were a saint!

Mary