Miss Mary wrote:John - you just need to relax in general, 24/7! That is what Karan is trying to say and what I've been getting at. When a person wants to find a g/f or b/f, other people pick up on that - big time. And it can scare the other person off. Again, in a big time way.
If you could just reach the point of saying to yourself - forget dating, I'll take a long break from it - I honestly think it would be in your best interest. Try it. And if you accomplish this difficult task, I suspect it is precisely when you may meet someone.
I liked someone's suggestion about joining clubs, volunteering, etc. Get busy, just lend a helping hand - in your community, join book clubs, softball teams, etc. Just get out and meet people, strike up casual friendships and who knows what will happen a few years from now. If you were my child, at your age, this is exactly what I would recommend for my daughters. Get involved, date casually if you must but enjoy life. 21 is an awesome age! Only comes around once ya know,

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Mary
Good point, Mary! I did not follow that rule

about sending a signal to the other person that I need a girlfriend (then, I was looking into it); I guess I went too fast and somewhat scarred my one and ONLY potential relationship off.
HOWEVER, John, you may find that dating and the stresses that come along with it may eventtually lead to you cardiological (heart) problems. I am 23 years old, but in my "dealings" with Emily late 2003-Aug 2004, if I were 20 years older, I would have had some medical problems (blood pressure and who knows what else).
Are the physical (and the psychological effects) worth it with dating? FWIW, I don't miss my dating YEAR.

Stress, stress, stress. Plus, something would not be right with the world if Brian dated; and something may be WAY out of alignment if I had a girlfriend.
Just relax! Don't listen to my previous statement about silence treatment. I slowly pushed my away from Emily because she was VERY immature. Tereasa sounds mature (perhaps unstable with relationships). Of course, I have not seen this girl, so I don't know! LOL Just go on with your business, sit back and look at the big picture. Let's see, I only live this life once. Ask yourself "Why would I want to spend it dealing with relationships?"